Friday 29 October 2021

28/10/21 Decisions, Decisions!



Hi it's Dave and thank you for joining me on the Altered Image Coaching blog.

This week's post has been somewhat delayed for various reasons and although I had written the post I had intended to use, it simply did not feel right. Despite many changes I could not get it to flow properly so in the end it was simply "hit delete!" and come back tomorrow after a good night's sleep.

Quite simply I made a decision!

Making that decision prompted me to use that as the subject for the post you are reading now!

In a nutshell there are several points that you need to consider before making any decision.

If your decision is likely to affect a marriage or a partnership then a number of points are called into play, namely:-

Make sure that you are thinking and acting in a way that is not just based entirely around your own desires.

Put simply - Don't just think of yourself!

                  - Don't just think of your partner!

                  - Only think about the US not just the me or the you!   

Be inclusive!

Never act in haste

Never act because you are angry or upset - judgements are always affected by such emotions and it is quite possible that decisions made here will be flawed!

Never make a decision out of stupidity -  take time to consider whether or not the decision is rational and beneficial.  Gather information about the subject so that the decision you make is appropriate.

Never make a decision out of fear - it is highly likely that a decision taken at a time when you are fearful will not benefit yourself and your partner.  Take the time to consider appropriate actions not knee jerk reactions.

All that being said there are some points that I will outline that have the ability to help with decision making process:-

a) there is no such thing as a "wrong" decision - there is only a decision! The actions you take after making the decision make it "right" or "wrong"  

In my own case 20 plus years ago my wife and I made the decision to move to North Devon.  The decision was made one sunny afternoon and we had no idea at the time whether it would prove to be a "good" move or a "bad" move.

Despite the family calling us mad, crazy, uncaring, selfish - here we are all these years later, very happy with the move, and it so happens that all of these people eventually moved to live in North Devon! 

Therefore the decision was a "right" decision for us both.  That said my brother moved here and for him it was a "wrong" decision in a lot of respects and now he has moved on to somewhere else.

b) when you look back you can never say "if" because you don't know what would have happened if you had made a different choice.

c) remember you can never change what you did in the past, you can only make a new decision and so having made that, move forwards with the new decision and in Freedom!

I contend that the "past" is a hinderance and it is my recommendation that you "don't live there"  You learn from the "present" because this is where life happens.  If you adopt this way of thinking and stop worrying about the things you did in the past you free yourself to create new adventures in your life "IN THE NOW!"

And finally a few words of advice

"Do not allow anyone to steal your happiness and peace - you have that choice!"

oooOOOooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

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Wednesday 20 October 2021

20/10/21 Overcoming One Of My Deepest Fears!



Hi from North Devon:-

Let me begin this week's post by letting you into one of my deepest secrets (and fears)! 

Something has lurked in the background for many years (only surfacing every now and then)!  Put very simply, I am not a lover of speaking in public and it has been this way for as long as I can remember.

It first became apparent when I was at Senior School.  It was the day of a  drama class and I was called upon to enact a scene from the school calendar (Speech Day).  

I remember all too well the nerves in my tummy, the dry mouth and the pounding heart.  I wanted to run away and hide but I stuck it out while my drama teacher helped me move through the situation with many words of encouragement.  

So now years later I now want to share with you all, the wisdom she shared with me that day:- 

She advised me to focus on what I had achieved rather than on past failures.  

So, if you are concerned about something you believe you have failed at, look at it closely!  See what you did right and then decide how you can do things differently next time and thus improve on what went wrong!

See if you can find a role model – someone who already has self confidence – watch and learn from them.  

What do they do?  How do they act?  What makes them so self confident?

Discover ways that can help you to feel good about yourself and put them into practice.

Act as if you are self confident and slowly but surely you will begin to feel more confident (this is known as "The Fake it ‘til You Make It" principle)

Find out what  people like about you!  Then, shift your focus onto those things because they are part of who you are and they are what people like about you!  

You should begin to add all the above to the things that you already like about yourself!

Some Things you can do to aid the process:-

Preparation – prepare thoroughly for any task that you are about to undertake, make sure that you are ready to begin.  Remember the 5 "P's"  that are:-

Prior Preparation Prevents Poor Performance

Do you need any specific skills to do what you want?  If the answer is "yes!" then learn them – you can never be over-skilled or over-trained for any task in life

Learn to relax!  If you have relaxation skills identify them and commit to putting them into practice before starting the task you have to do.

When you are delivering a presentation - smile and make sure you are standing straight!

Set yourself achievable goals!  It is a good idea to break harder or more difficult tasks into smaller steps (something that is called chunking)

Give yourself a small reward for success – No matter how small the achievement is you will associate feeling good with success

Do not become too competitive –  it isn't a race against other people!

Do not compare yourself to others!  This process is about you and your self - confidence.  Make sure that you understand that you are working to satisfy your personal needs.

oooOOOooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





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Thursday 7 October 2021

07/10/21 I Believe That.......

 Hi and welcome to this week's post on the Altered Image Coaching Blog.  

Today's video is the latest in the  series of videos that discuss tips and ideas taken from the various subjects that people often asked me a about. This week we look at a technique recommended by Linda Field in her book "Just Do It Now!"


If this video prompts any questions or raises any points for you then please feel free to contact me and lets have a chat,

You will find my contact email info below.   

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DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:


Workbook

Scan This QR Code for Free access to the our latest tool the Altered Image Coaching  90-Day Workbook


Subscribing To The Blog

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

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To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


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Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

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