24/11/21 Pitfalls Within Friendships

Hi and welcome to Altered Image Coaching.

Today I thought that I would talk about some of the pitfalls of friendships!

The first thing (Point 1) I would like to say on the subject is this:-

"If you become the caring heart of your family and friends you may feel that the role provides you with a purpose, but the truth is that it can leave you in a state of total exhaustion"

You may ask why this should be?  

The answer to that question is actually very simple:- you continually give without receiving anything in return.

Some friends may be "vampires" you know the sort I mean - they are the ones who take and never give back anything in return.  However, because of your nature you regularly find it hard to say "no!" which results in you finding yourself feeling low and believing that you have been used!

Next (Point 2) I would say that it is possible you will find yourself heading towards self sabotage - do you find yourself suffering from "burn out"?

You are probably a person who works and plays hard and you believe that you should just "get on with it" - most definitely a direct route to self sabotage.

Sometimes you might have an important meeting scheduled and you are still in the bar during the wee small hours.  Why do you expect to get by on four or five hours sleep or accept more work when you are already fully stretched?

You are putting both your physical and mental health at risk, this can result in you feeling unfit, having poor concentration, low energy levels and the like but you simply cannot stop yourself!

Now be honest, note your activity on a planner, then take a good look and decide if what you are doing is taking you nearer to or further away from your best life!

The next (Point 3) thing I would like to talk about is "worry"

Your active mind comes with a Dark Side - you tend to overthink and that results in you getting into a never-ending spiral of "worst case / what if" scenarios.  You may try to justify this by saying that you are prepared......but in fact you are unsettled by uncertainty and that gives you a feeling of self control.

Your belief is that if you expect the worst and it does not happen that is a bonus - but over time this situation drains you well - being, you feel tired, fed up of being stressed but it is hard to change.

Protect yourself by having "worry time" (a 15 minute window is good) and surprisingly when you schedule this time and sit down to worry the thing seems smaller, you have broken its hold over you!

Point 4 - is Conscientiousness:-

You are someone who is valued at work and you are often singled out as the "go to" person to get things done.  You thrive on personal growth and reaching your goals.  You often set the bar high but what really happens in that you spend so much time on the small stuff you have no energy left for the bigger things.  You feel that letting people down an an absolute "NO!"

You feel that "good enough" is ok for other people but never for you.

To protect yourself from burn-out step out of your routine every so often.  Too much routine drains you - begin a hobby that is fun to do and does not focus on achievement!

Carry our a friends audit!

Score each friend from 1 to 10 based on how much energy you have when you are in their company.  1 = flat and 10 = vibrant.

Once you have your results, make a conscious choice to spend the most time with friends who score 5 or above!

So this practically brings me to the end of this post, I hope that you have found the piece interesting and useful.  If you would like to talk about any of the points mentioned please feel free to drop an email to devonlifecoach@mail.com or give me a call on 07731 510040

Thank you for being here, I hope that you have found this post both interesting and useful and if you have any questions about this post or about my coaching service then please drop me an email.

I will be back again very soon 

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

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So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

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17/11/21 40 Things Children Can Do That Adults Can't

Hello and welcome to this week's blog post.......

It has been a very strange week and because of that I thought "since that is the way of the week I will do something to help continue the theme!".  

So let us take a look at several things that an adult cannot do (with any degree of success) but a child can

1    Unravel toilet rolls 

2    Ride on a child's trike

3    Throw your food on the floor because you say "I don't like it!"

4    Tell a stranger that they are fat

5    Kick the back of the seat in front of you over and over again

6    Announce an emotion as soon as you feel it

7    Kiss everyone with an open mouth

8    Climb into and out of small spaces

9    Throw Tantrums

10  Be picked up when you are tired of walking

11  Sleep whenever / wherever you want to

12  Take off all your clothes and not be embarrassed

13  Take what you want - when you want to

14  Spit out food that you don't like

15  Question everything (mind you I still do know people like that!)

16  Laugh at bodily noises

17  Wear pyjamas (or nighties) all day

18  Never apologise for anything

19  Sing as loud as you like or however you like

20  Correct everyone - even if you are wrong

21  Ride in, or on, a supermarket trolley

22  Stop dead no matter what you are doing to look at something you have just              seen

23  Ask someone if they will be your friend

24  Get paid for losing your teeth

25  Talk to imaginary friends

26  Scramble round on the floor with toys making animal noises or holding                      conversation with them

27  Start up a roadside business

28  Decide you are fed up with walking and just sit down

29  Pick your nose and eat it (in public)

30  Sing at full volume when they are supposed to be quiet

31  Repeat the same question over and over and over and over

32  Ruin a surprise

33  Fall asleep in school

34  Tell people what they have just heard you say about them

35  Repeatedly kick the back of the seat in front of you because you can

36  Wear costumes in public on any day of the week

37  Build sofa forts

38  Cry when someone else receives a present

39  Need a plaster for an invisible scratch (and get one!)

40  Announce that bowel movement in a loud voice

So there we have it 40 things that we adults cannot do that children can get away almost daily.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post and I will be back again soon

DAve

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

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By way of a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

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"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

Life Planning 2021

Hi and welcome to this week's post on the Altered Image Coaching blog.

A few years ago, having read an article on the subject of "life planning", I wrote a post that set out how I saw my personal life plan.  So now I have decided that it is time to review what I believed then and how it has developed into today.

So what was the process that started it all?

I had to sit quietly for a while and think carefully about the things I wanted from my life after several minutes I started to get responses.  I wrote these responses down for future reference so that I could monitor my progress towards the life I wanted.

The responses that came up were as follows:-

a) be a successful life coach

b) be a successful blogger

c) be a successful photographer

d) be a successful musician

e) travel around the world

f) own an Aston Martin

g) become a media celebrity

A definite pattern emerged and the underlying basis of that pattern was that I wanted "success".  Now that raised a question - how did I quantify success?  What did it mean?  How would I measure it?

So in response to that I decided I needed to determine "What Constitutes Success?" 

My responses were as follows:-

a) people seek me out because of my reputation, my results and my knowledge

b) people ask me to guest post, to have a core of regular followers and that core to continue to grow

c) being booked to photograph events / locations, to have exhibitions of my work, to sell my work and to have re-orders

d) to record my own albums and to be asked to play on other people's recordings, to be booked to perform at gigs

e) travelling around the world speaks for itself.

f) a shiny Aston on the drive

g) continuing to have my own shows,invited to speak on other people's shows.

So where am I on the journey?

a) I have written several books on coaching, recorded several mindfulness meditations, compiled a Personal Development workbook every year for the last 4 years and these products have sold steadily year on year.  The situation concerning Covid has meant that for the past 18 months there have been no face to face consultations........... the various video conferencing platforms have proved useful but have certainly not reached the same level as pre-Covid face to face work. 

b) I have guest posted for bloggers, written articles for publication

c) In 2018 I was invited to become the official photographer for the Ilfracombe Ladies group "Tangles" that is a part of the Round Table organisation. Each year for the past 8 years I have produced and sold a calendar of local images and in the last 3 years I have sold out and had to restock and sold out again.  This year 2021 I have now been commissioned  by "The Natural Approach" (an organisation that promotes and practices interventional therapy work with humans by involving them with horses) to produce their 2022 Calendar and to take photographs at their events through the year.

d) Musically I have been working on a number of new projects and have not been able to do any live work because of the Covid issues.

e) Again because travel has been severely curtailed by the Covid situation my globe trotting has had to go "on the back burner" however before that I had visited Turkey, Bulgaria, Morocco, France, Italy, Spain, Germany, North America, The Canaries, Holland, Luxembourg, Qatar, Dubai, Portugal - but there is still a lot of the world left to see!

f) Sights still firmly set on this one..................!

g) Because the main focus of my work is based in the entertainment industry it has opened doors for a few broadcast video interviews, a couple of radio interview and my experiences have also enabled me to put pen to paper and write another book that is now nearing completion.

So all in all I am feeling that my life plan is working and that I am on course for that to continue for the forseeable future.

If you feel the urge, why not create your own life plan and see what that throws up for you.  If you need any help with this you feel the need to chat through issues etc. please drop me an email or you can visit me on my various Social Media platforms

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

Scan This QR Code for Free access to the our latest tool the Altered Image Coaching  90-Day Workbook

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Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"