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In
this post I want to talk a little about stage fright (or fear) and provide you
with a explanation about why we feel like that and hopefully help your realise
that you can bring yourself into a more confident state.
Now,
I know from experience that even the most bubbly, outgoing people can suffer
from a lack of confidence at times of exams, tests etcetera.
Other
people can get “butterflies” just by having to head down the road to the local
shops, and there are many more steps and levels in between.
Confidence
(or the state of being confident) is an odd thing because it relies on our
interpretation of circumstances. For
example, two different people can observe the same event in two completely
different ways.
When
I first began working in the world of entertainment I found that before I was
called to take the stage I would regularly get physical manifestations in my
body these are the things that we often call “nerves”.
The
kind of things I am talking about included
A
dry mouth
A
nervous cough
Butterflies
in my stomach
Sweaty
palms
Raised
heartbeat
And
at the risk of appearing indelicate…….. an urge to visit the loo with alarming
frequency.
So
to say that I found this an embarrassing situation is something of an understatement! This situation went on for years and I would
regularly chat to other people about how I felt and I was surprised to discover
that it was a situation that was far from unique to myself. Many performers that I encountered also
related tales of being afflicted by the very same symptoms.
It
struck me as being very strange that there were other people who said that they
never felt any nervousness at all!
So
one day I was chatting with one of these people who were not suffering stage
fright and I made a startling discovery………..
I
asked the lady I was talking to (who said that she did not feel any nervousness
before going on stage) how did she feel before a performance. Her response was incredible and not the list
bit what I was expecting. To say I was
surprised is an understatement.
She
said something that went something like this:-
“Well
when I am getting ready to go on stage and I notice that I have,
A
dry mouth, a nervous cough, butterflies in my tummy, sweaty palms an urge to
visit the loo and that my heart is pounding. I know that I am in the zone, that I am
excited and ready to give the best performance I can!”
So
I asked the same question of a few more people that I am aquainted with and I found that most of them
told me the exact same thing.
So
I did a little more research and discovered that these symptoms were exactly
the same because the body produces the necessary chemicals to put us into the
state of readiness.
There
is very little physiological difference between fear and excitement. So if you are scared, but nothing bad
actually happens to you (e.g. you find a strange masked man in your house with
a knife, but it turns out that he is actually making you a peanut butter sandwich
or similar), then it is very easy to change that fear into excitement, or even
mistakenly think that you had been excited all along.
So
based on the above revelation I created a small technique that has to my
certain knowledge helped a number of people switch their nervousness to
excitement of anticipation.
I
asked them to imagine a supremely confident version of themselves standing in
the room where they are; to see them in full living, breathing colour; to
observe how this confident version is standing.
Next
take a mind movie of that person and imagine that you are wearing a bracelet on
your wrist. That bracelet is actually a
movie camera and so you transfer what you are seeing into that bracelet and
leave it on your wrist.
And
then the next time you feel “stage fright” grasp hold of that wrist and see the
confident version of yourself standing there in front of you, step into that
person and feel the same way as they are.
I
have used this technique personally and have taught it for a number of years to
clients who come to me with confidence issues.
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