Wednesday 29 May 2019

What Are Emotions 2019?

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Hi and welcome to this week’s blog post and what an eventful week it has been in our family.  My youngest daughter has had a baptism of fire at work, Alison, my wife, has returned to work and I have had to contend with a puncture on my caravan.  All of the above contributed to a wide range of emotions but…..


What Are Emotions?

Emotions are a call to action. 

It is often said that emotions can be both positive or negative.  Positive emotions help you to feel good about yourself and your life, whereas, negative emotions have a tendency to create doubts, worry, fear, discomfort etc.

So in the light of this knowledge it is possible to sum up negative emotions in the following way - they are pointers to change (Emotional Signposts)

How do you deal with your negative emotions at present?

Your answer will probably fall into one of the following categories

          a)      avoidance
          b)      endurance or denial
c)      competition
d)      learn and utilise

At this point I have to say some things that a lot of people will find difficult to believe -

“You ARE 100% responsible for your reaction to your circumstances (your emotions!)” 

Nothing at any time MAKES you feel anything. 

How you feel is the result of the meaning that you attach to a situation, the logical conclusion to this is that there are no negative emotions.  There are simply emotions and positive or negative is your interpretation of events.

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Now let us take a moment to try a short exercise

I want you to imagine something specific that you would like to own

Now I want you to spend a few moments hoping that you will get it. - how does it feel, how are you standing, how are you breathing.

Now I want you to spend a few moments being absolutely certain that you are going get it – how does it feel, how are you standing, how are you breathing.

Now compare the two sets of feelings – is the way you felt when you were hoping very much different from how you felt when you were certain that it was going to happen?

I'll bet it is – now let’s examine the process that you went through – does the actual thing exist?  No not here and now and yet I know that the feelings in you were as genuine as if you were experiencing this expectation for real.

This experiment has just proven that you don't need the actual thing to make you feel the emotion and that you can change your feelings and emotions at will. (from hope to certainty in an instant)

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Earlier we identified that Negative Emotions are pointers to change (Emotional Signposts).

For example the emotion of Fear = get prepared, cope with or deal with.

6 steps to help you deal with these emotions when they arise -

          1        Identify the emotion
          2        Appreciate the message (see below, The Action Signals)
          3        How can you use it
          4       Feel reassured
          5        See release as a tool of empowerment
          6       Take action to improve the situation

10 basic messages of change (The Action Signals)

          1        Uncomfortable – boredom, impatience
          2        Fear – worry, apprehension
          3        Hurt – loss
          4       Anger – irritated, annoyed
          5        Frustration – held back
          6       Disappointment
          7        Guilt – regret
          8       Inadequacy – less than perfect
          9       Overloaded – hopeless, depressed, more than you can deal with
          10      Loneliness

The Mastery Steps

The following steps are designed to help you take control of your emotional situation

1 - Identify the signal then

a) change your state           
b) clarify what you want 
c) take action in that direction
d) change your perception or your procedure.

2 - Appreciate the message

3 - Get Curious:-

How do you want to feel? 
What would you need to believe to feel this way?
What would you be willing to do to handle this emotion? 
What can you learn from this situation.

4 - Get Confident – remember when you have felt this before and got over it.  What did you do?

5 - Get Certain – identify 3 or 4 ways of dealing with the emotion

6 - Get ExcitedTake MASSIVE Action - Kill the monster while it is little!!!

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And finally ….....

Here are 10 emotions that will assist you to cultivate seeds of greatness and make life work.

1        Love and warmth

2        Appreciation and Gratitude

3        Curiosity (wonder)

4       Excitement and Passion

5        Determination

6       Flexibility

7        Confidence

8       Cheerfulness

9       Health

10      Contribution

I hope that in some way these notes on Emotions have helped you to understand that they are your responsibility and belong to nobody else.

Remember – there is not one person alive today who can make you feel anything (despite what you may believe) you are responsible for every feeling you experience.

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About Dave   I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company.  I am also a therapist and owner of a virtual light centre called Rainbow Bridge.  My therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and I am qualified as a Reiki Master / Teacher and currently studying a Colour Therapy course,

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