Wednesday, 20 February 2019

You Are Not Who You Think You Are!


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Hi and welcome to the Under Blue Skies.  This week’s post is a compilation of things we could look at in our lives to make some major improvements.  So let us start our title statement – You Are Not Who You Think You Are!

This is not just my own thinking!  But, it is a truism that you need to know who you are – not just how other people see you.  If you don’t know who you are it is very likely that you will be jumping onto every new trend that comes your way, you might be spending numerous Friday evenings attending social meet ups that you did not want to go to anyway, or spending hours on a tread mill at the local gym and yet deep inside you are continually feeling dissatisfaction.

BUT once you know who you are you are actually one step closer to becoming conscious.  You need to know who you are before you can find a partner whose traits and actions are complimentary to your own.

The same is true if you are looking for a new job.  You need to be clear on who you are so that you can determine what sort of job to look for and what you are prepared to do to get it once you have defined it.

And again once you know yourself you can decide which of your friends you don’t actually want to associate with then you can take steps to remove them from your circle and spend more time with the people you do like.

So that said here are some ways you can use to help you home in on finding “You”

1)  What would you do if you only had a fixed time left to live?

If you imagine that your life were coming to an end in a matter of weeks, months or years what would you do if you knew that you did not have an unending supply of time.

What would your purpose be and what would you do to see it through.  What would be the things you would rush to make sure you did before that time came?

2) Take some time out and think about the people you have had the most genuine and strongest feelings for. What have you got in common?

What is it about them that you seek that you don’t have in yourself?

3) What things do you feel you could be interested it?

Life is not about creating yourself, it is actually about unveiling yourself.  If you find something is “awesome” try it for yourself!  You may actually discover that you have hidden talents.  There are many things you could try including classes, studying tutorial videos on You Tube because you will never know what you can do if you don’t try!

4) Who are you when you close the front door on the world?

What do you think? What are your real opinions?  What do you say about other people?  What do you enjoy doing when there is nobody there to watch you?  What clothes are you comfortable wearing? 

Consider the person behind closed how far removed is he or she from the person other people know.  Can you close the gap?

5) If you did not NEED money to survive how would you spend your time?

The way you answer this question points to where your heart is and the things you should be adjusting you life towards doing.  It may not be possible to do the things as a full time way of life but it gives you pointers and thinking about them may show how you can incorporate such things (even in a small way) into your life

6) What Qualities Do You Admire In Other People?

This holds massive clues about what you should be capable of and what you should be working towards.  This is a great way to set goals for yourself because you can see what you admire in others, not what you are jealous of and that is an indicator of what you can work towards

7) What Bothers You Most About Other People?

Truth be told what bother you about other people is what bothers you about yourself and shows you what you cannot come to terms with about who you are.

8) Look At The Relationships and The People Around You

Do you seem to encounter the same things in all your relationships with other people? Do you feel that everyone you have known has treated you the same way?  Consider all the friendships and relationships that have ended.  Have you just put it down to bad luck or that they are ill fated? 

The one factor running in common with them all is – YOU! 

It is time for a long hard look at these relationships – because to be able to move into relationships you want you have to work out why you don’t yet have them!

9) Check Out The Physical Space!

Look at the things you keep in your space, do you see repeating patterns, colours, types of products, the clothes you choose, the products you use?   The things we surround ourselves with (consciously or unconsciously) define who we are and when those things are cluttered or disorganised that speaks loudly about you!

10) Make Lists

Look at the things you like and dislike
Look at ways you want to spend your time and the ways you don’t want to spend it
Look at the things you value and the things that you don’t place any value on
This opens the door to self evaluation and if there is anything that does not align with your life it is time to make a plan to get rid of it.  This sort of work is very valuable because it can, and does, help you to change your life.

So once you have completed the above steps you should find that your life is very much different to the way it is today.

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About Dave   I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company.  I am also a therapist and owner of a virtual light centre called Rainbow Bridge.  My therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and I am qualified as a Reiki Master / Teacher and currently studying a Colour Therapy course,

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