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Hi
and welcome to the Under Blue Skies blog.
It is so hard to believe that we are over half way through June already.
This week I decided that I wanted to write a post about body language.
This
is something that we all are involved in and if we are not careful we may say
one thing but our body tell the other person something entirely different.
So
here are are few things that you ought to try and avoid if you really want to
make a good impression on someone
Feet Pointing Away
Did you know that your feet point to where you
wish to go? Keep in mind whenever someone is focused on a conversation with
another person, his or her feet point to them. However, if he or she is about
to go for lunch then their feet will point towards the door. Pay attention to
the message your feet send because they are so very noticeable.
Touching Your Face
This is probably the most surprising body
language mistake on this list. You may feel placing hands on your face makes
you look like you are carefully thinking of something or that this action makes
you appear intelligent; whereas touching your face actually makes you look
dishonest, mainly if your hand is touching your nose or mouth.
Self Soothing
A lot of people self-sooth in various ways.
Some wrap their ankles or legs around table legs or chairs. Some keep their
hands together, others on their thighs or fidget with their clothes. Though
these actions make you feel relaxed in an uncomfortable situation, they make
you look weak and anxious. If you happen to be uncomfortable in situations, try
find out why and address it so that you can be more confident without
self-soothing.
Not Mirroring
We often unconsciously mirror body language. If either the head or the hands of the person
you are listening are tilted to the right, you will probably do the same. It is
something that happens unconsciously.
Leaning Back
This body language mistake shows that you are
uninterested and day-dreamy. It is offensive at all times; and especially when
you should be listening to someone speaking.
It makes you appear unconcerned
about what they have to say to you.
Getting Too Close
We all have dissimilar boundaries when it comes
to personal space. Keep in mind that not everyone has the same experience. A brief crossing of the line into personal
space is generally fine, but staying there more than two seconds could mean
that you have lost a friend.
Not Smiling
Smiling automatically creates a connection with
the person you are talking to. Have you ever heard the phrase, “smile and the
whole world smiles with you?” This is in
fact true! The person listening to you mirrors your smile and promptly feels
better about them selves in the process.
Fidgeting
This shows that you are uncomfortable having a
conversation. It also suggests that you are planning how to act instead of
being present. The best thing to do in this situation is to reduce the
movements of your hands and feet, and take deep breaths.
Leaning Away From Others
Leaning away from others could be positive! It
shows you are relaxed and unimposing but when done too much, it portrays that you
both unapproachable and not interested in the conversation. Always lean in
occasionally at points in the conversation to show interest.
Looking Down
People who look down a lot tend to give an
indication of shame. This is not something that you want to portray; so avoid
looking downwards for long periods of time. Aim to keep your chin up and to keep
your head held high and proud.
Crossed Limbs
This may be a useful tool in the animal kingdom
but crossing your arms during conversations appears to be somewhat unfriendly.
It is not a good look because you are visibly
protecting your midriff area from alleged threats; you should open your arms as
a greeting, and then, wherever possible, place them behind your back instead.
Crossing your legs could also be interpreted as having the same meaning as well.
Clock Watching
This is very noticeable and it is similar to
checking you phone. People want you to be present in their conversation and if
you constantly look as if you want to be somewhere else, the chances are that
they will not want to engage with you either.
Avoiding Eye Contact
Normally, when making conversations, humans
play a game of eye contact tennis. Once you finish your part of the
conversation, look into the other participant’s eyes for approval of what you
said or to gauge what is next. Usually the other will agree to play the game by
communicating their point of view.
A Weak Handshake
The issue with a weak handshake is that our
reptilian brain tells us the other person cannot be trusted. If there is no
firm grip it means they may hold a weapon in their loose hands. It is not a
positive signal towards anyone, particularly potential clients!
Slouching
Slouching is one the most common body language
errors. It is usually caused by working hunched over computer screens and this
can ultimately, and very easily, become our default setting. It shouts of a
lack of confidence even if you are on your A-game. Try pushing your chest and
pulling back your shoulders.
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Best
Wishes
Dave x
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