Hi
and welcome to the Under Blue Skies. This
week’s post is a compilation of things we could look at in our lives to make
some major improvements. So let us start
our title statement – You Are Not Who You Think You Are!
This
is not just my own thinking! But, it is
a truism that you need to know who you are – not just how other people see
you. If you don’t know who you are it is
very likely that you will be jumping onto every new trend that comes your way,
you might be spending numerous Friday evenings attending social meet ups that
you did not want to go to anyway, or spending hours on a tread mill at the
local gym and yet deep inside you are continually feeling dissatisfaction.
BUT
once you know who you are you are actually one step closer to becoming
conscious. You need to know who you are
before you can find a partner whose traits and actions are complimentary to
your own.
The
same is true if you are looking for a new job.
You need to be clear on who you are so that you can determine what sort
of job to look for and what you are prepared to do to get it once you have
defined it.
And
again once you know yourself you can decide which of your friends you don’t
actually want to associate with then you can take steps to remove them from
your circle and spend more time with the people you do like.
So
that said here are some ways you can use to help you home in on finding “You”
1) What would you do if you only had a fixed
time left to live?
If
you imagine that your life were coming to an end in a matter of weeks, months
or years what would you do if you knew that you did not have an unending supply
of time.
What
would your purpose be and what would you do to see it through. What would be the things you would rush to
make sure you did before that time came?
2) Take some time out
and think about the people you have had the most genuine and strongest feelings
for. What have you got in common?
What
is it about them that you seek that you don’t have in yourself?
3) What things do you
feel you could be interested it?
Life
is not about creating yourself, it is actually about unveiling yourself. If you find something is “awesome” try it for
yourself! You may actually discover that
you have hidden talents. There are many
things you could try including classes, studying tutorial videos on You Tube
because you will never know what you can do if you don’t try!
4) Who are you when you
close the front door on the world?
What
do you think? What are your real opinions?
What do you say about other people?
What do you enjoy doing when there is nobody there to watch you? What clothes are you comfortable
wearing?
Consider
the person behind closed how far removed is he or she from the person other
people know. Can you close the gap?
5) If you did not NEED
money to survive how would you spend your time?
The
way you answer this question points to where your heart is and the things you
should be adjusting you life towards doing.
It may not be possible to do the things as a full time way of life but
it gives you pointers and thinking about them may show how you can incorporate
such things (even in a small way) into your life
6) What Qualities Do You
Admire In Other People?
This
holds massive clues about what you should be capable of and what you should be
working towards. This is a great way to
set goals for yourself because you can see what you admire in others, not what
you are jealous of and that is an indicator of what you can work towards
7) What Bothers You Most
About Other People?
Truth
be told what bother you about other people is what bothers you about yourself
and shows you what you cannot come to terms with about who you are.
8) Look At The Relationships
and The People Around You
Do
you seem to encounter the same things in all your relationships with other
people? Do you feel that everyone you have known has treated you the same
way? Consider all the friendships and
relationships that have ended. Have you
just put it down to bad luck or that they are ill fated?
The
one factor running in common with them all is – YOU!
It
is time for a long hard look at these relationships – because to be able to
move into relationships you want you have to work out why you don’t yet have
them!
9) Check Out The
Physical Space!
Look
at the things you keep in your space, do you see repeating patterns, colours,
types of products, the clothes you choose, the products you use? The things we surround ourselves with
(consciously or unconsciously) define who we are and when those things are
cluttered or disorganised that speaks loudly about you!
10) Make Lists
Look
at the things you like and dislike
Look
at ways you want to spend your time and the ways you don’t want to spend it
Look
at the things you value and the things that you don’t place any value on
This
opens the door to self evaluation and if there is anything that does not align
with your life it is time to make a plan to get rid of it. This sort of work is very valuable because it
can, and does, help you to change your life.
So
once you have completed the above steps you should find that your life is very
much different to the way it is today.
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About Dave I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company. I am also a therapist and owner of a virtual light centre called Rainbow Bridge. My therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and I am qualified as a Reiki Master / Teacher and currently studying a Colour Therapy course,
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