We Are All Getting Older (Part 4)

 

WE ARE ALL GETTING OLDER

PART 4

                                       Photo by Dave Baxter M.A.S.C.(life coach)

Memory and thinking change as we become older, and this is perfectly normal, despite being very annoying. It is also true of the brain, and that is the reason for those “tip of the tongue moments!”

These changes occur because changes within the brain called “cognitive ageing” and they affect memory, thinking and other mental processes.

If we understand that it helps us to anticipate what is coming as we get older, that knowledge can help our families to better understand the situation.

It is a fact, the most mental processes will become less nimble over time, a bit like a 70-year-old not being able to run as fast as a 25-year-old. Similarly, the brain of a 70-year-old will not think as quickly as that of a 25-year-old.

The loss of efficiency is a gradual process and the way it happens it’s different for every person iPhone but it is important to remember that it is not a disease. Cognitive aging does not include neurodegeneration and damage

Simply put – for a person with cognitive aging, the nerves are okay, but they are working less quickly/efficiently.

Ways memory / thinking will change with aging.

A) how quickly the brain processes information
B) memory-working/episode (recently events tend to decline).

It does not mean events have disappeared. It simply takes longer to retrieve the memory.
C) attention and ability to concentrate/focus on something specific becomes worse.
D) the ability to multitask reduces.

The manifestations of these points are that people become more easily distracted by noise, visual clutter and busy situations and Multitasking becomes more difficult.

There can be instances where “finding a word” takes longer, and this leads to pauses in the middle of sentences, spelling can be more difficult, and there may also be a decline in the ability to name common objects!

So, in conclusion, it has to be said that this period of change in someone’s life can be one of the most difficult not to mention challenging for all concerned, but the situation can be helped by:-

A.getting enough sleep.
B.exercise.
C.not smoking.
D.avoiding noisy/busy environments.

This brings me to the end of part 4......................

Please join me next week for part 5 of this piece.

If you find that these points have raised any questions please feel free to drop them to me in an email - devonlifecoach@mail.com  

Thank you for reading this post, I hope that you have found it interesting and that it will be useful to you going forwards.

So until the next time have a fantastic week and I will speak to you again soon.

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

https://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/alteredimage

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

  The 2022 Personal + Lifestyle Development Coaching Workbook is now retired and no longer available.  

Keep an eye open for the 2023 Workbook (7) 

coming soon!

Please email: devonlifecoach@mail.com for more information

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And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

DAve x

We Are All Getting Older (Part 3)

 

WE ARE ALL GETTING OLDER

PART 3

                                       Photo by Dave Baxter M.A.S.C.(life coach)

Asking For Help!

Let me say right at the outset that this piece is not saying in anyway that requiring help is the province of older people because it most definitely is not - 

Babies need help feeding

Toddlers need help walking and dressing themselves

Teenagers need help dealing with life issues as they move towards adulthood

Parents of young children probably need help adusting and re-arranging their lives

Adults sometimes lose their way and need help + advice with social issues / financial issues etc.

Seniors often need help because of infirmity, falling, loneliness, failing eyesight and health issues, social care issues, and financial issues.

So with all that being said it becomes apparent that needing help is a part of life and growing up, that we all need help as some point or other during each phase of our lives.

This prompts me to ask a question - why do we feel so awkward when we need to seek assistance from someone?

Could it be that we have become conditioned to accept and shoulder responsibility and to take control that it makes asking for help become a cause for being uneasy? 

Taking that a stage further do we feel a failure because a situation occurs where we need to ask for assistance and that in turn means surrendering our control to another person or persons?

Sometimes we believe that seeking help could be construed as being "needy" - hence the comments "we don't want to feel ashamed of our situation" and "we don't want to be thought of a incompetent"

People often fear that that they will be rejected or will be told "no!" and that finds its roots in a fear of being viewed as weak or "being found out"

There appear to be 5 major obstacles to asking for help or assistance

1)    The belief that needing help is a sign of weakness

It is a falsehood to believe this is a sign of weakness because in doing so you are showing maturity and confidence by knowing what you need and you are not afraid to ask for it.

2)    The belief that you do not need support and/or help

Each one of us needs help now and again - nobody can handle everything alone.  If you accept help it can actually strengthen relationships / friendships because everybody feels good if they can provide support.

3)    Being afraid to speak out and ask for help

Sometimes when we need help we have to ask for it! The best way to approach this is to simply acknowledge this and ask for help!  For Example - "i am really having trouble with this could you please give me some help or advice?"

4)    Waiting for someone to make the first move

Other people might not see that we need help because we are putting on a cheerful face in order to mask the problem or to give the impression that we don't want to talk.  Remember that people are not mind readers so don't wait for someone to notice what you need - just ask!

5)    Giving up to easily

All too often if we don't get all we expect immediately there can be a great temptation to "give up" - Getting help needs us to do something and we need to try several times, but that said we need to persevere.

Remember - none of us can go it alone! and people do not always know what we want - if we put a brave face on the situation!

Don't hesitate to reach out for support or don't be afraid to give support / help it you think that someone needs it!

Please join me next week for part 4 of this piece.

If you find that these points have raised any questions please feel free to drop them to me in an email - devonlifecoach@mail.com  

Thank you for reading this post, I hope that you have found it interesting and that it will be useful to you going forwards.

So until the next time have a fantastic week and I will speak to you again soon.

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

https://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/alteredimage

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

  The 2022 Personal + Lifestyle Development Coaching Workbook is now retired and no longer available.  

Keep an eye open for the 2023 Workbook (7) 

coming soon!

Please email: devonlifecoach@mail.com for more information

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Subscribing To The Blog

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Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

DAve x

We Are All Getting Older (Part 2)

WE ARE ALL GETTING OLDER

PART 2

                                       Photo by Dave Baxter M.A.S.C.(life coach)

What Is Holding You Back?

Hi and welcome to this latest post from Altered Image Coaching.  I am Dave B. Life Coach, Musician, Author, Husband, Dad and much more.

Over the next 3 weeks (I think) I will be continuing to take a look into something that is happening to us all, every day of every week, of every month of every year.  It is something that all of us do.....we get older!

Most people assume that they are unhappy because of something external, they don't understand that their overall contentment is not casual, it is a manner of perception. So when we go to craft ideas of what our best lives would look like, we focus on what pretty pictures would ease our internal discomfort, rather than the actual solutions to what is actually going on.

So with that said let us take a look at some examples of how we are being held back on life's journey

You Want Your Life To Be Different Than It Is, But You Don't Want To Do Anything To Change It!

This situation occurs because you hold a belief somewhere in your subconscious that someone will do it for you and you are looking for solutions externally.

Someone else will save you / someone will show you the way.

It is imperative that you understand that only you are responsible for your "journey," even though somebody can give you the map. If people have an under-developed sense of self — they don't feel that they can take responsibility for themselves so rather than try, they just wait around for someone else to fix it like they always have done in the past.

You are too lax with your routines!

You do not have enough sleep or you do not drink enough water. You do other things rather than pushing yourself to work on a project in the time that you have allowed. You then become so lax with your schedule that you end up not actually accomplishing the things you want to do because you are more preoccupied with how you want to feel in the short-term.

You Are Being Too Structured With Your Routine

On the other hand, you could be failing to give yourself any space to procrastinate, to fail, to take a break, or to open up to new possibilities that you had not considered previously. This is as bad as being too lax. Remember you are a person
not a robot!

You Do Things From Obligation And Call It "Love"

True love is about making sacrifices that do not feel like sacrifices. When you love someone truly, your desires or opinions or preferences may not come first all of the time, but it does not feel like this is a taxing, negative or almost unbearable duty. There are times when you are more than happy to give and this is when people get confused.

Sometimes people remain friends with people they would rather not be associated with because of obligation. They fail to realize that maintaining any relationship that is fake under the guise of obligation and love is keeping them from ever really finding true love.

You Are In Love With Outcomes, Not Processes

When you imagine your dream life, it consists of how things look, rather than the day-to-day functions and responsibilities it takes to get them that way. In reality the only way to create the life you truly want is to fall in love with the process, the every day.

However, many people will not do this is because it almost always requires them to rethink what they truly value and or desire. This means that it is a must to let go of the false and grandiose idea of what life could be that is in proportion to how insecure, helpless or judged you feel it is.

You Operate On A Belief That You Don't Actually Agree With Or Believe In

You have "assumed" something must be true because everybody else seems to believe it is.

The word believe consists of "be" and "live." If you are not feeling comfortable with or you do not choose to "be" and "live" whatever it is you claim to believe in, then it is likely that you probably do not believe it as much as you think you do. You like what you assume it can do for you and/or the image you choose to hold of yourself.

You Engage With People Who Infuriate You But You Can Not Figure Out Why

This often happens when you do not feel secure or comfortable enough to express how you really feel. You often engage with these people because you care about them, or you have to, but as yet you have not reached the point where you can calmly and effectively communicate what you need to say in a way they will be receptive to.

You Refuse To Rewrite The Rules Your Parents Or Society Put In Your Head

You know they these rules do not apply, or that they do not actually help. However, rather than understand that you can re-write the terms and conditions of your existence, you simply follow along with whatever was implanted out of an obligation to other people. You place this obligation higher than an obligation to yourself.

You Don't Take Enough Me Time

Your mind is constantly bogged down with the thoughts and energies of other people . You often end up feeling like nothing more than the reflection of all the roles you play for other people, because you have never had to genuinely stand "alone", for whatever reason.

I contend that people who are afraid of taking a healthy amount of alone time do not want to hear what they have to say to themselves. As a result this leads to them to a position where they are adopting everyone else's thoughts as their own.

You Are Always Trying To Work Out What You Are Meant To Do.

Trying to figure out what you are "meant to do" is about as effective as trying to identify who "the one" is before you start dating them.

This is exactly what people do when they are so afraid of failing that they are not willing to actually try.

When you focus too much on the idea of how things should be, you start losing the concept of how they are. Not everything will be picturesque, and that is a reality that often you will be grateful for. Happiness is how you create the pieces of a life that feels good to you, not how closely you adhere to the ideas and images of life that other people desire.

When You're Uncertain, You Seek Advice From Lots Of Friends

Feelings of uncertainty are not a call to ask everyone you know for their opinions. Doing that not only feeds the problem it also confuses the issue. Feeling uncertain is a call to truly listen to what you are saying to yourself and not further disconnect from the inner voice based on what other people perceive.

So that concludes this week's piece from We Are All Getting Older   I hope that you found it interesting and useful.

BUT THEN THE MONTHS FLY BY!!

Please join me next week for part 3 of this piece.

If you find that these points have raised any questions please feel free to drop them to me in an email - devonlifecoach@mail.com  

Thank you for reading this post, I hope that you have found it interesting and that it will be useful to you going forwards.

So until the next time have a fantastic week and I will speak to you again soon.

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

https://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/alteredimage

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

  The 2022 Personal + Lifestyle Development Coaching Workbook is now retired and no longer available.  

Keep an eye open for the 2023 Workbook (7) 

coming soon!

Please email: devonlifecoach@mail.com for more information

oooOOOooo

Subscribing To The Blog

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

DAve x