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Welcome
to the Under Blue Skies blog and in preparation for the theme for next month
(which is Organisation) I decided to be a day early and cover something that is
often overlooked when times get difficult.
An
Emergency Life Audit is something that you can do when there is not time to
think about everything that is going on in your life, or if there are only a
few areas that appear to be causing you problems.
What is the main concern on your mind?
Focus
on the thing or things that keep you awake at night or are making every moment
an anxious mess.
Generally
there are ten main areas that are home to most of everyone’s problems and they
are:-
Finances
Career
Romance
Family/Friends
Spirituality
Recreation
and Hobbies
Physical
Health and Body Image
Home
Life
Personal
Development
Community
Service/Giving
We
often find it necessary to carry out an emergency life audit because we are (or
have been) experiencing problems in one or two of the above areas of our life.
There
may be other areas that need attention but is is probably best to being with
the top one or two things that on the list.
What is the core
problem?
Many
people focus on surface issues when trying to solve problems. It can be said that “we solve the symptoms, but
we do not cure the disease”.
This
is situation is great if the issue will clear up on its own time, but most of
them do not. When this happens we find
ourselves stuck! We are moving in a circle where we are dealing with symptom
after symptom, and still trying to work out why nothing is changing.
Although
it is a good idea to deal with the symptoms, we must remember that we need to
figure out what is actually responsible for causing them. Because that thing is
the core problem, the nub of the situation,
the nitty gritty!
To
discover the basis of the core issue is very simple and can be determined by
asking yourself these simple questions and being honest in your answers.
Why?
What?
Where?
When?
How?
The
very first question might be something along the lines of:-
Q
- Why am I concerned about my career?
A
– Because the company is restructuring and making redundancies
Q
– What impact would that have on me?
A
– I might have to move to a different location
Q
– Where would that mean moving to?
So
as you can see this can help you work through the problem and it could turn
into a long conversation or if could end up being very simple. It is all governed by the sort of problem or
situation you are facing.
Decide how you want the
core problem to be fixed
The
simple answer to saying “I need more money” is “find more money”.
This
part can be extremely frustrating if we have been trying to solve it already
(which is why we took a couple days to solve the symptoms first).
However
it is probably wise to avoid trying to solve the situation when you are already
overwhelmed.
These
are probably the hardest steps to take, and even more so if the core problem is
complicated such as:-
Finding
a new job – this could feel next to impossible,
Rebuilding
a connection with your family – a lot of broken bridges might need to be
mended.
Discovering
what you really want might take time!
However,
it is extremely important to work out what you really want!
If
you need more money, you might want to change careers or find a better paying
job in your skill area
If
you want to have a better relationship, then you might want to recreate a former
bond (something that you used to do but have stopped over time) with your loved
one.
Don’t
worry about the way to get there yet, just think about what you want. This is
now your long-term goal!
Define three actions
that you can take today
You
need to start by dealing with the stress that you are currently dealing with.
Look
back at the conversation with yourself, and the first thing that you thought of
when trying to figure out what’s going on. These are the symptoms, the things
you are facing and “the things that are on fire.”
What
could you do during the next couple days that would help alleviate that
symptom?
You
are not attempting to solve the situation just yet – what you are doing is
looking at ways you can give yourself some room to work.
This
is important because it is not in your best interest to end up paralyzed because
of all the extra pressure you are piling on yourself.
For
example,
Maybe
you needed to deal with the fact that you are nervous about being dependent on
someone else until you get back on your feet. You had not been dependent on
someone for so long that it was making me anxious and depressed!
You
may decide on the following three actions:
Keep
a closer eye on the money of your own that you spend.
Check
in with your partners more to make sure you are ok (this will help reduce
anxiety).
Spend
extra time planning future projects
These
ideas are to help reduce the anxiety, not to solve the money problems.
Do one thing to get you
started
Once
you know what your long-term goal is, then you need to put both feet on the
ground and start walking!
Pick
one thing that you can do right now that will get you started.
For
example - If you are looking for a change in career, update your CV and make
sure it contains all the current information about your qualifications,
experience etc
If
you are looking to improve relations with your partner, schedule a date night
this week, book theatre tickets or arrange to go out for a meal in your
favourite restaurant.
Small actions can become
big changes!
And
finally
If
you are in a situation where you are suffering insomnia, anxiety, or depression
from a circumstance, immediate action is necessary. Sometimes this can mean
ignoring the standard goal setting advice and taking action before plans are
made.
When
setting long-term goals, it is very wise to create short-term goals that will
help you reach the long term goal and creating a working action plan.
Not taking action when
things need to change is unacceptable in most cases.
We are forced to act and
it is best to know where you are going with a long-term goal.
(Based on an original idea by Nicole Larson)
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and Empowers people to create Lasting Change”
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Development coach; speaker; radio presenter; therapist and co-owner of a
virtual light centre called The Crystal
Spring .
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Teacher).
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