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Hi Welcome to the Under Blue Skies blog. Let
me begin this post by asking you a question – What does “finding yourself”
actually mean?
To
begin with to be able to find yourself you have to have some idea of what you
are actually looking for. What you are
actually hoping to find! You might be
hoping to find a person who is prepared to take action towards achieving their
goals and those ambitions are aligned with the goals.
However,
now I have to tell you something - that person is not out there! The said person will not pop into your mind
acting all enthusiastic and saying “here I am now let’s get living!”
Quite
simply you have to create the person that you want to find because right here
and now you have the power to do just that.
You can create yourself as whoever you want to be. Coincidentally as I was writing this a
colleague of mine wandered into the office and announced that he was heading
off to Israel
To
be honest had he said he was off to find himself I would have made a comment
about that and in that comment told him that you never “find” yourself. Your life is about creating the person (or
masterpiece that is you and you alone!)
So
accept that your life is what ever you choose to make it. The fact that you can
change it at any moment will always help you in creating the life that you
desire.
Look at your habits
Do
you have a desire to become a non – smoker?
Well, the simple answer is “Stop Smoking!”
Do
you want to become a “morning person” Well, the simple answer is to get up
early every day.
You
have the ability to become whoever you want to be but you have to be prepared
to change who you are currently so that you can become who you want to be.
Now
let me tell you that I am not saying it is easy to make these changes because
sometimes it is not! What I am saying is
that it is simple to do! You have to
realise that the only person stopping you from becoming who you want to be is
you yourself.
If
the habits you have do not improve your life – you have to get rid of
them! Accept that you had these habits,
give them thanks for accompanying you on this journey, accept that they
probably made your life more enjoyable and then say goodbye to them.
You probably know that your life is going to improve in lots of
different ways by leaving these old habits behind you.
It
is a great idea to take up new habits that are going to assist you in living a
better life. You might find that
travelling to work on the bus or train provides a time when you can listen to a
self improvement podcast or an audio book.
Look at your Limiting
Beliefs such as:-
I cannot
join a gym because someone might laugh at me!
I cannot
travel on my own because something might happen to me!
I will not
start a blog because someone I know might read it
Now
consider these statements
If
I join that gym then I will see improvements in my confidence, I will gain
strength and fitness.
Travelling
on my own will give me the opportunity to listen to something that I like or to
meet some great people and create new friendships,
If
I do start to write my own blog I might be able to make it my full time job
with all the benefits that can bring.
When
we actually want to do something we are judged by ourselves – a little part of
us decides that it is going to try to stop us – don’t think this part is the
subconscious because it isn’t, it is actually the ego – the reason for this is
because our ego does not want us to fail which is why it steps in………simply
thank it for being worried and concerned and then ask yourself if it is worth
it to proceed.
Other people may try to
stop you!
There
are a couple of points that are worth making here – firstly, surround yourself
with people who make you feel good. If
there are people around you who are not on the “same page” as you are their
actions although well intentioned with hold you back because they find it is
convenient for them to have you in their lives.
So make yourself your number 1 priority.
Secondly
you have total control over how you react in situations – if a naysayer pops
into your space, listen to what they say, accept that this is their opinion and
not yours, then move on with your journey.
Arguments and worrying about what these people thing will only weigh you
down so don’t allow it to ruin your day.
And
finally
It
is perfectly possible to develop new habits; to unfollow the people whose posts
on social media do not bring value into your life; to stop socialising with
people who drain your energy; get rid of your limiting beliefs.
Just
think for a moment you have probably been taught since childhood that putting
yourself first is both egocentric and selfish but consider this – would it not
be a waste of your life if you did not put yourself first.
Change
the way you behave and then you can look back over your life and think about
how great it has been, instead of thinking “what could I have done if only I
had put myself first and pushed myself to do such and such a thing?” Or “what
could I have had if I had done things this way or that way?”
Do NOT be a victim,
leave your comfort zone, grab hold of your life and start living it to the
full.
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About Dave I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company. I am also a therapist and owner of a virtual light centre called Rainbow Bridge. My therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and I am qualified as a Reiki Master / Teacher and currently studying a Colour Therapy course,
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