Wednesday, 29 August 2018

HOW TO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND



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Hello and welcome to another post from Under Blue Skies – Today. In keeping with the theme of the month we are going to look at how you can turn your life around.

Wednesday, 22 August 2018

Do Less / Do More


       
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Recently I have been working towards creating a clearer and (slightly) more organised life for myself.  Doing that has meant a sizeable chunk of soul searching and looking at myself from the outside.  This post is about the results of one particular exercise that I carried out recently.

Wednesday, 15 August 2018

Some self care give-away tips.




Welcome to Under Blue Skies I hope that you are enjoying these posts and that you are taking something useful away with you after reading each one.

So this week I thought that I would give you a few tips that can be placed into your personal self care toolkit.  They are, for the most part, very simple common sense things.

Wednesday, 8 August 2018

30 Things To Help Clear Your Life


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Thank you for joining me here at Under Blue Skies and today I would like to explore several ways that you can clear your life.

It is true that if you keep putting things off you run the risk of stagnating and this holds within it the potential to become a major problem.

Wednesday, 1 August 2018

A Different Look at Self Esteem




Self esteem is the relationship that you have with yourself, you might say it is the way that you talk to yourself behind closed doors, where no-one can hear you.

How do you talk to yourself?  Are you kind to yourself?  Do you talk to yourself respectfully?

So let us look a little more deeply at some of the rubbish that we allow ourselves to say internally.

Listen closely to how you talk to yourself.  Do you call yourself names or bury yourself in ‘should’ statements? There are many dysfunctional ways of thinking that we call all be caught by. It is important to avoid the most common thinking traps that I have listed below:-

Should, Must or Ought
You tell yourself how you “should”, “must”, or “ought” to feel and behave. However, this is NOT how you actually feel or behave. The result is that you are constantly anxious and disappointed with yourself and/or with others around you.

Imagining Catastrophic Situations
In this scenario we always imagine that the worst possible thing is about to happen, and predict that we will not be able to cope with the outcome. However, the imagined worst-case scenario usually never happens and even if it did, we are often able to cope with it.

Filtering
This is when we only pay attention to the bad things that happen and ignore all the good things we are filtering information. This prevents us from looking objectively at all the aspects of a situation and drawing a more balanced conclusion.

Over-estimating danger
This is when we believe that something which is unlikely to happen is actually right around the corner. It is easy to see how this type of thinking can maintain our anxiety. For example, how can you not feel scared if you think that you could have a heart attack any time?

Labelling
Sometimes we talk to ourselves in mean ways and use a single negative word to describe ourselves. This kind of thinking is both unhelpful and unfair. We are too complex to be summed up in a single word!

Over-generalization
This is when we use words like “always” or “never” to describe situations or events. This type of thinking is not helpful because it does not take all situations or events into account. For example, sometimes we make mistakes, but we don’t always make mistakes.

Mind-reading
Sometimes when we believe that we know what others are thinking we assume that they are thinking the worst of us. The truth is that no-one can read minds, so we do not really know what other people are thinking!

Black-and-white thinking
This happens when we only look at situations in terms of extremes. We assume that things are good or bad, a success or a failure. But, in reality, most events call for a more “moderate” explanation. For example:- cheating once on your diet does not mean you have failed completely. You had a small setback, and all you need to do is to get back on your diet tomorrow

Fortune-telling
I have personally got a number of clients to whom this type of thinking applies. This happens when we predict that things will turn out badly. But, in reality, we cannot predict the future!

Another way we can get ourselves into troubled waters is not challenging our thoughts.   You can do this quite simply by asking yourself “Would I say this to a friend of mine?” 

If the answer is absolutely not! Then why would you speak to yourself that way.

Some ideas you can use to help you raise your self esteem

Talk to yourself in the 3rd person

Instead of saying “I can manage this situation” say “insert your name you can manage this situation.”

Remember this

Feeling hurt or upset does not mean that you are bad. Feeling uncomfortable does not imply that there is something wrong with you!

A feeling is simply that – it is a feeling

Please recognize that accepting and managing certain feelings can be difficult, especially when we don’t know how to do it.

Building our self-esteem by changing how we treat ourselves can be challenging.
So if you feel that the tips mentioned here are not enough to help you build your self esteem on your own, or you would like to see positive results faster, consider working with a specialist coach or counsellor.
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About Dave   

As the founder of The Blue Sky Company I am dedicated to building a business that:-

“Inspires and Empowers people to create Lasting change”

I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter; therapist and co-owner of The Crystal Spring – a virtual light centre. 

My therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and Reiki (qualified Master / Teacher).  In addition I am currently studying towards a Practitioner /Master’s qualification in Mindfulness.

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