We Are All Getting Older (Part 1)

WE ARE ALL GETTING OLDER

PART 1

                                  

Photo by Dave Baxter M.A.S.C.(life coach)

Hi and welcome to this latest post from Altered Image Coaching.  I am Dave B. Life Coach, Musician, Author, Husband, Dad and much more.

Over the next 4 weeks (I think) I will be taking a look at into something that is happening to us all, every day of every week, of every month of every year.  It is something that all of us do.....we get older!

In my personal case the children are now adults who have got their lives sorted, they have built their own group of adult friends, established themselves in their careers and they have built their own groups of friends and generally they are standing on their "own two feet"

This progression means that (not just Alison and I) as parents we begin to feel increasingly distant from our families.(of course they should not be living in our pockets).  

So for me personally I have a wonderful wife (Alison) a daughter who still lives at home (although she is an independent woman in her own right) and another daughter who is married and has two adult "children" of her own.

One day (it comes to everyone) we realise that our life is becoming less hectic than it used to be and we are seeing less and less of the friends we used to have  There can of course be many reasons for this but primarily the causes are relocation, ill health, financial constraints and the like!  

The real truth here is that the older we get the isolated we become unless we elect to do something about it.

There is a something that we can do to change this - research has indicated that we tell ourselves a number of lies and these untruths prevent us from having the best relationships that keep growing and prospering.

Let me ask you a question:-

Do you ever meet someone in the street and during the conversation you say something like "it has been so long since we last met...... we really must get together soon!"  

BUT THEN THE MONTHS FLY BY!!

Please join me next week for part 2 of this piece.

If you find that these points have raised any questions please feel free to drop them to me in an email - devonlifecoach@mail.com  

Thank you for reading this post, I hope that you have found it interesting and that it will be useful to you going forwards.

So until the next time have a fantastic week and I will speak to you again soon.

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

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This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

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Workbook

       The 2022 Personal + Lifestyle Development Coaching Workbook is soon to be retired and the last few copies are available at a very reasonable pricc.

email: devonlifecoach@mail.com for payment and download information

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Please email devonlifecoach@mail.com if you would like to purchase (for a very reasonable £7.50) the link that will let you download a copy of our 2021 workbook:- 

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And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

DAve x

Who Do You Think You Are?

Hi it's DAve

Thank you for joining me for this week's Altered Image Coaching blog post! 

I hope that you have a great May Day celebration or if you are follower of the Pagan Path through this life a wonderful and blessed Beltane Festival.

Today I would like to ask you a question:-

Who do you think you are? 

Every person we are has been created as a result of outside influences, things that we have internalized as we moved from child to adult. 

If you were emotionally supported and accepted as a child it is very likely you will be able to project an optimistic and hopeful image more easily than someone whose family were critical or unresponsive.

If your family were creative then it is very likely that you will have grown up to be a creative person however if your family were watchful and caring then these traits will feature in your adult relationships.Let us know look at some qualities and see what you think apply to you

Let us now look at some qualities and see what you think apply to you :-

Are you obtuse?  

Are you perceptive? 

Are you intelligent? 

Are you skillful? 

Are you creative? 

Are you not creative? 

Are you thoughtful? 

Are you sensitive? 

Are you rude or angry? 

Are you happy? 

Are you supportive?

We all have the ability to feel any emotion, to think any thoughts and to behave in any way that we choose!

It might prove insightful to carry out the following exercise, based on who you think you are:-

Simply start to build a list with the statement

"I am the sort of person who always .............."

Once you have completed the list review it and note down the traits that you see!  It is probable that you will see various things in your character that you are pushing down (or suppressing) and these elements can make up a whole new "sub personality" that you are keeping hidden for whatever reason.

Experiment with the suppressed parts of who you are, let them come to the surface, explore them.

You are far more than you think you are, allow your personality and your sub personalities to mix and your whole self will become  more enriched, and more rounded.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post, I hope that you have found it interesting and if you would like to leave a comment there is a space for comments at the bottom of the page.

Have a fantastic day,

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

https://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/alteredimage

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

The 2022 Workbook is now available and as a special gift and to celebrate Beltane I am extending the limited time FREE access (until 15th May) to readers of this blog.  After this time the Workbook will become a "paid for" publication. 

Scan the code below to take advantage of this offer

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Please email devonlifecoach@mail.com if you would like to purchase (for a very reasonable £8.50) the link that will let you download a copy of our out going workbook:- 

                         The 2021 Altered Image Coaching 90-Day Workbook 

Subscribing To The Blog

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

Have Less / Live More

 

 

   HAVE LESS / LIVE MORE

How often does the attraction of "New Things" manage to seduce you into buying things that you don't really need?

It can be anything from a piece of jewellery to an inspirational book, it simply has to make its way into your possession, like an itch that is never scratched.

But if you really drill down and ask yourself, when have I been at my happiest? (and be truthful here), the answer would probably be "when I was doing....... "(something).  However, the honest answer is probably when you were doing something that was costing you absolutely nothing - NIL, NIX, NADA!!!!

Things such as:-  being with your children on the beach, swimming at sunset, walking barefoot or when you are at your most calm - looking up at the sky, meditating or simply sitting in silence.

So now ask yourself another question - do you really need that new handbag? - What is the worst that could happen if you didn't have it?  

Now expand from this point......

Do you really NEED to buy a new book if you could probably get it from the library?

Do you really NEED to buy a new outfit?  

Would the world grind to a halt if you fixed that thing was broken rather than going online and replacing it with a new item?

Don't get me wrong here, there are things that really are essential purchases such as somewhere to live / repairs / water / gas / electricity but there are changes you could make that would go a long way to reducing some of your costs.

You could cancel that very expensive Gym membership and take up cycling, walking, running - all of which cost very little but still allow you to keep fit and healthy.

You could grow a lot of your own vegetables!

You could visit farm shops and charity shops!

There are lots of savings that can be made just by having a change of mindset!

In the home you could use energy saving machines (yes they do still make them) at off peak times.  Taking advantage of bulk buying is another way that you could save money.

There are many alterations and adaptations that can be made to reduce your spending and improve the quality of your day to day life - all you need to do is choose consciously instead of opting for the knee jerk, often "easy" options.

So as we look towards the turn of the year (here in the Western World) will you become more conscious and thrifty - thus having a simpler but increased quality of day to day life?

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The preparation of the new and different 2021 Workbook is underway! 

(the first copies should be available in early January)

However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page

Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and that work includes music therapy; crystal therapy; Reiki and I will soon be offering an introduction to  Mindfulness.

If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

Under Blue Skies Private group · 27 members Join Group This group aims to concentrate primarily on Personal Change although at times there may be elements of Business Change or a cross over point somewhere...

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 

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Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Run Free!

This week's post is about 

                                 "running free".  

So many of us are so tied to our "work" or our "home" etc. that we do not know what it is like to be totally free!  

We have no idea how it feels to observe the beauty of the night sky, to stand in the middle of a rain shower or to be breathing the rarified air on the top of a distant hill.  Any yet, these are only a few of the beautiful things that we could (and should) experience as we pass through this life.

A number of years ago I had the chance to experience freedom and it was one of the most amazing times of my life - but I have to say that I did miss the "creature comforts" of home and although that was a bit of a problem I would not swap that experience for anything.

I was reminded of this experience by a story I read recently.  It is a story about a little girl whose family took her to an adventure park and there she saw a horse that was living its' day to day life giving rides to children.  The horse was well cared for and to all intents and purposes it wanted for nothing.

It dutifully carried the children around the farm every day but the girl wondered what it thought about!

Did it dream of escaping one day and running perfectly free or did it simply accept that life was the way it was and that was how it was meant to be?

Neither she, nor anyone else would ever know what thoughts went through that horse's mind, but one day as the park was closing someone carelessly left the gate open....... and  

The horse escaped!

It galloped over the fields with the wind blowing through its mane.  Eventually it came upon a river and stopped to take a drink and then it realised it was hungry but did not know what it was going to do for food.  The horse knew nothing about fending for itself so it just carried on walking and eventually it happened upon a farmyard.  The air was thick with the smell of newly cut grass and the horse followed the aroma, eventually finding the storage area the horse began to eat its fill.

"How lovely" it thought as it ate but there were other thoughts running through its mind as well, one being the warm comfy stable that it had at the park, all the children that it enjoyed being around every day.

In that moment the horse decided to make the journey back to the park, to be greeted by the owners.  It was led to the stable and bedded down for the night.

After a comfortable night's sleep the horse was taken to a huge field where there were several other horses.

It seems that the owner had experienced a realisation!  He had realised that horses were much like human beings, they needed their freedom, they needed to be able to wander and roam with others of their own kind.

He now understood that he had been misguided and that he had really been unkind to the horse over the years, it needed to have the freedom to do it's own thing and also it needed to have and experience the companionship of others.

It is my belief that as humans we also need the same things!  

We need to experience our freedom, to be able to move around and to mix with like minded people - we need to be able to travel and to return home as and when we feel the need.

Only this way can we live the lives that we were truly destined to live.

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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!

However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page

Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"

ooo000ooo

About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.

If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

Under Blue Skies Private group · 27 members Join Group This group aims to concentrate primarily on Personal Change although at times there may be elements of Business Change or a cross over point somewhere...

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 

underblueskies@zoho.com

Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!