Wednesday, 25 December 2019

BEING ASSERTIVE


Being Assertive

Today’s post shares some thoughts and ideas about how you can be assertive.

The Collins dictionary defines “assertive” as follows:-

“confident and direct in claiming one's rights or putting forward one's 
views”

There is a commonly held opinion that standing up for yourself can be particularly hard, however it is my belief that it is possible for people to learn how to be stronger and that process is not too difficult if you use the correct language.

So here are some thoughts about how you can call on your inner wisdom and strength to achieve this without impinging upon or violating another person’s rights…..

Bring and focus attention upon what can be done – “this is probably going to seem difficult but taking that into consideration why don’t we….?”

Invite other people to give their views upon the subject by asking open questions.

Use clear communication such as – “I don’t have a preference about what we do……”

Use language that illustrates clearly that you are expressing an opinion by saying “In my view…….” or “I think that……”

Be clear about what you want.  For example “My preference is ………”

And own your feelings and ideas such as “I see the situation as being like this……”

You could adopt a policy that states that “if I win then you win also” which assumes that your rights are equally as important as someone else’s.  It also shows that you are responsible for your own actions, behaviour and the consequences of such actions or behaviour.

But really you should steer well clear of those “I win / you lose” situations and its direct opposite that is “I lose / you win”

Both of these stances assume an element of hostility or a battle of some sort.  On the one part the “I win” assumes that you have to win to survive so therefore striking first is the best way to defend yourself.

Putting “I lose” first creates an assumption that your needs are less important than those of the other person.  You are anxious or unwilling to stand up for yourself so you make the other person feel guilty.

So in conclusion Assertive Behaviour shows that you are able stand for your rights in ways that do not violate the other person’s rights and it is my belief that working in this way will ultimately bring a solution that is good for everyone.

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Monday, 23 December 2019

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Friday, 20 December 2019

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Thursday, 19 December 2019

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About Dave   I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company.  I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and Reiki.  Currently I am studying towards a Diploma in Mindfulness

If you would like to know more about the blog or my therapy work etc, then please email me.

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