20/01/23 Too much to do.................(maybe!)

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To Do (Maybe!)

Hi things became really hectic this week, what with meetings, cars to sort, vans breaking down and lots of personal things to attend to!

It was so hectic that by the time I realised that the blog had not been done it was today (Friday)

So looks like I might be spending some part of the weekend getting in front with posts making it that I have a library to turn to ....... he says hopefully!

There are lots of things happening in my world at the moment and by the time I get home in the evening I have been known to slob in a chair until bed time!

Anyway apart from that things are good........today I have been creating a poster for a forthcoming event I am involved with.

So please bear with me as I try to get back on track.

Love and Light

DAve xx

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About Dave  Personal development coach; a therapist; speaker, radio presenter

                               

"A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives".  

Certifications
I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-
Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)
Music Therapy (Diploma)
Crystal Therapy (Practioner)
Reiki (Practitioner)
Dementia Awareness
In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 
Introduction To Mindfulness
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And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"
DAve x

Becoming More Assertive

 

Hi and welcome to Becoming More Assertive, the latest blog post from Altered Image Coaching.

Recently it has been shown that people who lack confidence rely very heavily on what are known as passive and aggressive behaviours. 

If you demonstrate these behavioural tendencies, It is likely that within your past or present life you have been given the “You have no right to be assertive!” dictate.

So it becomes necessary to replace this with your own set of rights and they are as follows:-

The right to change/become assertive

The right to be independent

The right to privacy

The right to change your mind

The right to be successful

The right not to understand something

The right make a choice

The right to make your own decisions

The right not to have to justify anything you say

The right to hold an opinion/emotions/feelings

The right to ask for what you want

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Moving on - I have had people ask me recently “how can I become more assertive?” To that question my answer is that you have to be certain that you know what your needs actually are and then put them before others.

However, to determine these needs requires an element of personal scrutiny:-

A) what sets you “off”?

     what is the reason why it sets you off?

     If you are sure this is reasonable then you should make these reasons public.

Let us consider “lateness” as an example

If you see a colleague being consistently late you need to calmly explain to them why being late for a meeting causes you a problem. It is surprising how many battles can be avoided by this approach.

B) when you ask something of someone be confident that you are asking for the right reason (especially if it is reasonable)

C) Be a good listener

By listening to what the other person is saying you can stop miscommunication before it happens. Listening enables you to build a better relationship because you will be able to state your expectations clearly.

Listening allows you to hear clues and then create a win-win situation.

D) Offer alternatives - You don’t really need to be a p.i.t.a (pain in the….) - Come up with options that will work for each of you

E) Stay calm, cool and collected – losing it is uncool and makes you look foolish

F) Take responsibility – you can do this – they are your thoughts and actions even if it means saying no.

G) repeat/repeat - you can often say the same thing in different ways until you get your message across to the other person – this clearly shows where the boundaries and that they need to be repeated.

However,

Before you can become effectively more assertive you have to be crystal clear in your own mind about what you want to achieve.

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

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And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

Make Space For Thinking

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Hi and thank you for joining me on the Altered Image Blog this week.

I was wondering what to write about in this post and for inspiration I looked back over some old notes and this sprung at me.

We have so many thoughts whirling around our heads that we simply don't know what to think, if your head is anything like mine it is similar to an American Freeway, there are ideas hitting me from all angles and often they collide!  Sometimes those collisions generate new ideas whereas other times they create total carnage and destroy things that I felt were solid.

So I decided to take myself out of circulation for a short time and attempt to get some semblance of control and this is what I discovered.

It is important to Make Your Skills Work For You

I thought about this long and hard!  I have control of the world all around me (although I cannot make significant and monumental governmental decisions).

However, I can control what I let into my space and how I interact with the world around me.

I think back to my time in Morocco and how clearly I thought after my trip there (and that was without mind expanding substances)  I feel that with the exception of Glastonbury not other place I have visited has had such a profound effect.

As a result of this process began to list the areas that I have skills in and here is a somewhat abridged list of those skills:-

Music - creating original tunes, writing lyrics, recording, teaching

Radio - I am regularly broadcasting several shows per month

Photography - I have had a number of exhibitions which have brought customers and ultimately commissions

Teaching - people have paid me to provide training in personal development and for providing coaching services, 

So it is my contention that there is always time to make space in your life for your thinking about your skills, it is simply a matter of making it happen!   By doing so you may also find that your skills will provide you with additional income and as a result you could discover that:-

YOUR SKILLS CAN PROVIDE A ROUTE TO HAPPINESS!

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

Have a fantastic day and remember 

Don't predict the future - CREATE IT!

DAve x

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in each of the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To find out more about how we could be able to work together or to just dive straight in and book a session, then please send me an email

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link to the new

 Altered Image Coaching page. 

This page is home to a group of like - minded people (also affectionately known as "The Tribe") and as a thank you for their continued support people who join "The Tribe" often receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  

Plus the page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

Workbook

Scan This QR Code for Free access to the 2021 Altered Image Coaching 90-Day Workbook

Subscribing To The Blog

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Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And again, above all remember

"Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!"

Being Assertive

      

       BEING ASSERTIVE

This week I decided that I would write a short piece about being assertive.  It is my belief that standing up for yourself can be hard - but there is a way to learn how to be stronger in your approach!

It is important to get your point across to the other person.  However, there are many ways that you can do this so here are just a few

a) Focus on what can be done - say something such as “I understand that it must be difficult for you but we can take that into account when we look at what we can do”

b) State what you want using some words such as what I would prefer is this........

c)Take ownership of your ideas and feelings and viewpoints And you can do this by using the phrase “this is how I see the situation....”

d) Do not focus on opinions but use behaviour and facts such as “When I saw you do…”

e) Make clear statements for example “I don’t have a preference for what we do…“

f) Create a habit of asking open questions - the type that invite the other person to give their view

g) Make sure you focus on what can be done by saying “I know it must be difficult, but we can take that into account…“

It also helps to use the following as ideas:-

Avoid falling into the I win / you lose trap - this view tends to indicate that we live in a hostile place and that the way to survive is to be the stronger person, to strike first because "the best form of defence is attack"

Conversely avoid falling in to the you win / I lose trap because this makes the assumption that your needs (when compared to others) are not as important. You appear to be anxious about standing up for what you want so you make other people feel guilty or sorry for you

So the best thing to do is to adopt the I win / you win situation. This way acknowledges that each persons rights are equally as important as everyone else’s!  You are responsible for your own behaviour and the consequences of that behaviour

And that brings us to the end of the short piece on being assertive it can be hard to stand up for yourself but you can learn to be strong.

(Based on a piece entitled "Be Assertive" by Suzanne and Conrad Potts)

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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.

LINKS

Website:

www.moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/bluesky

Wytchwynd Photography:

http://moonshadowmedia.wixsite.com/photographyportfolio

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/davethemerlin/under-blue-skies/

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