REPAIR AND RENEW
According to recent research it would appear that one in four people will experience some kind of mental health issue each year. Such emotional difficulties (if they do not have life-threatening consequences) are not that dissimilar to breaking a leg or catching a flu virus. They can bring discomfort and pain that may last a while but they are not bringing any long-lasting effects (Although you may carry the memory for quite a time).Society has made huge strides concerning openness regarding issues around mental health, but there are a lot of people who have adopted a “should” type of judgement when it comes to themselves and their lives.
Take for example the case of a lady who has been having a tough time – she is experiencing panic attacks and anxiety, a relationship that has fallen apart, plus friends of hers have made announcements concerning new jobs, babies and house moves.
These events create expectations and the lady believes “This is where my life should be“. She feels under pressure and is sad because she is not yet healed – this intern puts her into a state of anxiety and even deeper sadness. She begins to believe that she is doomed to live the rest of her life this way.
Broken bones heal in time, despite how painful they are, we will regain normal use but there is no short-term fix for issues of the mind, and we may feel that our sadness is going to remain with us forever.
Then we start to feel that we should be “over this by now“ we experience impatience and believe that there is only an allocated time to feel this way before we “snap out of it!“. However this is part of the process of grieving and moving forwards.
Sadly in some respects the western world bases it’s therapy for such situations in talking therapy and anti-depressant pills (both of which are useful).
However, there is a lot to be said for Eastern thinking - There is a belief in the “Dark Night of the Soul” which is regarded as “a right of passage” and an opportunity to transform/transcend and heal.
Rumi is quoted as saying “The wound is the place where the light enters you” and once you feel that, you will begin to work through your own darkness.
We often tell ourselves stories as a way of dealing with our wounds – but, we never pay any attention to the wound itself so it becomes infected and festers.
It is only when we truly examine the wound, realise the untrue stories and allow the light of healing to enter us that we are truly able to heal.
(Adapted from an article entitled “Plaster Cast For The Mind” by Ali Roff)
About Dave I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and radio presenter. A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways. In addition I am also a therapist and that work includes music therapy; crystal therapy; Reiki and I will soon be offering an introduction to Mindfulness.
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