This week I thought that I would take a look at something that affects all of us at some point of our lives and that is the subject of exhaustion. There are four clear steps that I have highlighted and put everyone of us in danger of burnout.
Step 1 is Worry
Because your active mind life comes with a dark side -You tend to be guilty of overthinking And get yourself into a never ending spiral of worst case/what if scenarios.
You might try to justify this by saying you are prepared but in fact you are on settled by uncertainty and worrying gives you a feeling of control.
Your belief is that if you expect the worst and it does not happen that is a bonus. But, over time this drains your well-being, you feel tired, fed up of being stressed but it is hard for you to change.
Protect yourself by having “worry time” (15 minute window is good)
Surprisingly when you schedule the time to sit down and worry things seem smaller and you have broken the “worry hold” over you.
Step 2 is Emotional Labour
If you become the caring heart of your family and friends you may find that role provides you with a sense of purpose but the truth is it can leave you in a state of exhaustion because you continually give without receiving anything back.
Some friends may become “vampires“ and these people never give anything in return, but because of your nature you will find it hard to say “No”.
You will ultimately find yourself feeling low and believing that you have been used.
To protect yourself from burnout audit your friendships. Score each friend from 1 to 10 based on how much energy you have when you are in their company. One equals flat 10 equals vibrant. When that is done spend most of your time with those people who score 5 and above.
Step 3 is Self Sabotage
Are you burned out? If you are you are probably a person who works and plays hard, you believe that you should just get on with it. This is surely a route into self sabotage.
Sometimes you might have an important meeting scheduled and you are still in the bar drinking during the week small hours.
Why do you expect to get by on four or five hours sleep or accept more work when you are already fully stretched?
You are putting both your mental and physical health at risk. You find you suffer from feeling on fit, poor concentration and low energy but you cannot stop yourself.
Be honest – note your activity on a planner. Take a good look and decide if what you are doing is taking you nearer to or further away from your best life.
Step 4 is Conscientiousness
You are someone who is valued at work and are singled out as the go to person to get stuff done. You thrive on personal growth and reaching for your goals. You set the bar high but what really happens is you spend so much time on the small stuff you have no energy left for the bigger things.
You feel that letting people down is an absolute no! You feel that good enough is alright but is never for you.
To protect yourself from burnout step out of your routine every so often.
Too much routine drains you, start a hobby that is fun to do without focusing on achievements.
Be brutally honest and look at yourself and your life in great detail. Use a daily activity planner, take a long hard look and see how much of your routine takes you one step closer do your best life, or alternatively, one step further away.
Carry out an audit of your friendships. Score each friend from 1 to 10 (1 = flat, 10 = vibrant) based on how much energy you have when you are in their company.
Once you have done this spend the most time with those who score is over five.
I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-
Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)
Music Therapy (Diploma)
Crystal Therapy (Practioner)
plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an
Introduction To Mindfulness
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