Tuesday, 20 October 2020

A Fresh Look At The Wheel Of Life


Hi everyone, it's Dave and I would like to welcome you to this week's blog. 

As part of my "getting back to what matters" process I have taken a look at some of the tools I used to recommend to my clients and one of them was something called "The Wheel of Life" that I included in some of my early workbooks.

I now  believe that in 2020 / 21 this will prove to be a valuable tool for bringing some semblance of order and direction into our lives and it will help us to focus on areas of our life where we can make improvements.

The wheel is broken into 8 segments and this allows you to see how you stand and where you can make improvements.  I recommend that you focus on only one segment at a time rather than trying to handle all 8 areas at once.

So that said, let us look a the different areas that make up the wheel - the order they are placed in is quite important.  

The main areas are as follows:-

Home        Family        Work        Friends        Wellbeing        Relationships

Adventure        Money  

and so we need to establish a base line for each area.  This will give a point from which we can move forwards.  To do this rate each area a score of between 1 and 10 where 1 is the lowest (it really sucks) and 10 is the highest (it can't get and better than this).

Once you have done this then take your lowest scoring segment and work to increase its score by a total of 3 points during the next 4 weeks.  These baby steps are vital and you will need to do some real thinking to determine ways that you can raise the level by just 1 point per week.

When you find that you have managed to raise the point level for that segment then move on to the next lowest scoring segment and see if you can raise that one by the same amount.

You can, if you have the time, work on more than one section at a time but the aim is to go back to it often and consider what actions you can take to raise the scores. 


If you feel it would help you then you could also consider if there is someone you know to who would hold you to account and spur you on to do this work.


So what remains now is to wish you "Good Luck" and say that I hope you are soon hitting 10s all around the wheel.


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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

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Tuesday, 13 October 2020

The Cup Of Tea (Strategy Planning Your Progress)

The Cup Of Tea

Hi and thank you for joining me today as we explore something that could, for some people, be a new and radical strategy / approach to goal setting

All too often we set personal goals but we do not really create a plan of how we aim to achieve the goal or challenge. So I have given this matter some serious thought and I have decided that to achieve the required motivation it is necessary to look at the object or state that we want to achieve. To put it another way we have to “start at the end” to achieve success.

Having done this we move on to the
Next Step 

In this part of the process we need to list everything that has to happen for to achieve (or realise) this goal.   It is all very well to have the goal in mind but unless we know the steps to take we are at a great disadvantage.

So that said, it is useful make a note of all your answers no matter how ridiculous you think they are. They can be as crazy or as far-fetched as you like because they are all useful!

But, instead of theorising let us take a look at a practical example.

The example that I have chosen provides an illustration of how to make a cup of tea.

So if we illustrate (or picture) the cup of tea that is to be the finished article then using the approach that we have outlined we well see that stepping backwards we will require a teapot and we will also need a kettle (to boil the water) we will also  need a cup and saucer and we will need the tea.

We will also need an amount of milk, some sugar, water (for the kettle) power to provide the heat to boil the water.

A third thought string will us that we will need teabags, plus maybe a tea strainer and this will involve shopping and paying the bill

And the final fourth string shows us that we need will electricity, so if that is the case, then it might be that we will have to put coins into a meter and finally we will also need to plug the kettle in.

So you can see, by using this method you are guided to think about all of the steps involved in reaching your goal, rather than just setting a long-term "off in the distance" goal and then not having a clue about how you are going to get there.

If you don’t have a plan then you may end up in totally the wrong place.

This piece forms part of my success progress development concept.


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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Tuesday, 6 October 2020

7 Tips For Success

 

                 7 Tips For Success




Hi it's Dave

In keeping with the new direction of Altered Image Coaching I have decided that this week I am going to share a few ideas that I have found useful in helping clients to work towards their success (and be contented along the way).

So let us jump right in and go for it:-

1    Don't think that abstaining from food is the opposite of being greedy!  It is not!  In fact the opposite is found in the knowledge of how to recognise being content with what you have eaten.

2    Passion is contagious!  People find themselves being naturally drawn to someone who is passionate about their work, or their life.  It is often the case that they cannot take their eyes off them and eventually they will do what the other person is doing .

3    Adversity provides an opportunity to experience growth. When people are faced with a struggle to reduce the challenges they face in life they are actually building their endurance muscles and they will (without thinking about it) be fine tuning their talents

4    Don't wait for happiness! Live and enjoy the moment.  Instead of postponing the joy until you have reached the end of the project, celebrate all the little victories along the journey.

5    Remember that it is ok to make mistakes!  Making errors and then learning from the mistakes is the path to growth and successfully moving forwards

6    As you grow you will receive attention! Do not deliberately go in search of attention from other people.  It is a fact that as you develop you skills and talents attention arrive automatically.

7    Take time to reflect!  By doing this you are able to see how other people have contributed to the success of your project.  Expressing gratitude for those contributions will help pave the way for move success.

So hopefully those few short tips will get you thinking about how you work and then making a few little adjustments to your route will bring you to success and the discovery of contentment.  

All of which will prove wonderful!


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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Tuesday, 29 September 2020

Be Happier In A Job You Don't Love

   
      Be Happier               In A Job 
You Don't Love!

Many people go to work because they have to while some go to work because they want to.  Some people also go to work and they are ambivalent about the situation.  They feel that it is ok but the pay could be better, the hours could be less, the holidays could be longer and so forth.

However, I am able to say that without making massive changes there are still ways to help make your experience at work more satisfying, more pleasurable and here are a few suggestion you can implement that will allow you to take the reins of your career.

So let us now take a look at some of these changes that will help you to build and create a more meaningful and controlled work environment.

Create Momentum

You can begin this by using the first hour of your day to focus on the most important things that you have to do.  If you do this you are less likely to spend the day in a fog of distraction (eg Social Media etc.) We often believe that if we distract ourselves we can make the unpleasant aspects of our work more pleasant.

However, this is a fallacy and you will find that if you become more focused and involved with what you are doing, the higher the feelings of satisfaction will be.  

Resulting in a job well done and time well spent!

Create a Meaning

We all know that business / organisations exist for something but quite simply that knowledge is not particularly inspirational.  So why not take some time and figure our why your job matters?  

It may be that you are able to help others with their problems, maybe you are able to express your creative side and much more.  But, to be honest, even if you are really only going to work for the money this still matters!  Why? Because supporting your family or being able to fund your hobby are still worthy reasons.  

So now matter what your reason happens to be take ownership of it and that in turn will result in you finding your work much more meaningful.

Take Care Of Your Workspace

When it comes to keeping it tidy it is important that your work space, however small, is your domain and it is important to recognise that outer order contributes to inner calm.  Making the space your own with photographs, plants can also be crucial to your wellbeing.  Do all you can to make the workspace that you have, personal to you!

Celebrate Your Progress

Your happiness at work can so often be dependent on "small wins".  In reality they matter so much more than the "big ones" that are so far off in the distance that all too often you tend to think of them as unachievable.

So begin each day with listing 3 or so tasks that can be achieved fairly easily but that will make a big difference to your day.  Once you have completed these tasks then celebrate with a break or some other small reward

In conclusion I would as you to remember this -

it is the little victories that make the most significant difference to your happiness at work.

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The (slightly) larger 2020 Workbook is now available!



To order a copy of the workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.

If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Wednesday, 23 September 2020

Finding Your Voice!

     Finding Your Voice

Thank you for taking the time to join me here today.  

I decided that this week was probably a good time (in this period of unrest, discomfort and all of the other situations that are presenting themselves) to say something about Finding Your Voice.


I first wrote about this subject approximately a year ago when I was studying towards a Mindfulness Diploma and I decided that one day I would revisit and explore this subject a little further.

So as I said earlier I think that now is probably a good time to do this.  Listed below are a number of questions / tasks that will help you to decide what makes you the unique person that you are.

The first step to finding your voice is to examine your character closely - with honesty being the most important rule governing your answers.  

Make a list of all the words that describe your character and the qualities you possess.  Take your time doing this and be as accurate as possible with the words that you use.  

When you have created your list go back over it and find the 3 words that most accurately describe the best qualities you possess.

In my particular case the words I came up with at the end of this were

a) tenacious                              b) considerate                              c) deep

Next ask yourself (and answer truthfully) is this how I talk and come across to others?  If they were asked would people agree that the words I have used accurately portray my personal characteristics?


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Now let us look at the people that you have chosen to be part of your circle. 

Do you share common interests?

Are they male or female?


Are they in business on their own account or hold senior management positions?


Are they keen to develop themselves?


Do they share a similar sense of humour?


Do they share your values concerning right and wrong, good and bad etc?



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Next we need to establish the cultural / artistic influences you lean toward.  

Write down all the items of the above -

These answers will help you to determine (if you have not already worked it out) which situations would be comfortable (for you) should you be called upon to experience and discuss.

For example if you are a devoted fan of the music of The Beatles / The Rolling Stones or similar - you may find that you are uncomfortable attending the ballet or the opera

What sort of books appeal to you?  Biography, Science Fiction, Romance or others 

That then is the easy part...............


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Next you need to ask the question that is probably the most difficult and awkward question of them all.  

What do other people think of you and do their answers agree with how you see yourself?




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And finally................

Take a few moments and just write......this may not be as hard as you first think!    You can use this time to get things off your chest, write about things that are bothering you; things you like;  things you want more of in your life; things you want less of in your life;

This is your time, nobody is going to judge you and so you can let your mind go wild, you can truly "Find Your Voice!"


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The (slightly) larger 2020 Workbook is now available!



To order a copy of the workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.

If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!



A Fresh Look At The Wheel Of Life

Hi everyone, it's Dave and I would like to welcome you to this week's blog.  As part of my "getting back to what matters" ...