Tuesday, 1 December 2020

My Slip Was Showing.....


         My 
         Slip
         Was
         Showing!

Hi and thank you for being here.

Before I begin, a little historical fact - in the "olden" days women used to wear a garment under their dresses called a "slip" .  A slip was a full length garment designed to give a the dress a better shape.  The term "my slip is showing" instead of being an actual statement of fact eventually came to mean someone was making a mistake.

So this week I thought I would tell you something about a personal experience that I have gone through within the last 24 hours.

The story goes as follows:-

I came home from work yesterday evening to a happy atmosphere within the house. I was told when I got indoors that we were having a visitor in the evening. This is not an unusual occurrence and in fact I was really looking forward to it.

The reason being that since the situation with regards to the perceived* Coronavirus pandemic, we have led fairly sheltered lives.  Therefore, seeing someone different would prove to be a welcome distraction.

At around 7 o’clock the doorbell rang and we welcomed our bubble-sharing friend**

As is usual with this person the conversation was quite spirited and all was going very well until a WhatsApp message arrived for my wife Alison.

It is often the case that when these messages arrive the content is discussed (not in full glorious technicolour but in sufficient detail to say what is happening).  However, this time it was not!

Several more of these messages arrived during the evening and again, the content was not discussed.

But I did eventually gather (from a comment that was made quietly) that the conversation was about a Christmas dinner event for the social group Alison and our friend belonged to.

In and of itself this would not normally cause any sort of a problem!  However, because I carry a little bit of angst concerning this group (which is a whole different story) I was somewhat perturbed that Alison had felt it necessary to be so secretive.

The fact that I knew nothing about the impending event, together with the apparent secrecy surrounding it, caused me something of an upset.

This resulted in my inner instincts coming into play and I chose to retreat into my shell rather than discuss the situation openly. However, this decision led to the evening's conversation becoming quite awkward and somewhat difficult.

Before any judgmental comments are passed I know that this type of action goes against everything that I teach clients, but it does go to prove that I am a normal human and and as such have failings and knee jerk reactions, just as everyone else.

However, because it was so unusual for the secrecy and guarded conversation to be manifest in our house I felt threatened and simply reacted from gut instinct.

I have since apologised to Alison for my behaviour.

So where did I go wrong?

Quite simply, I reacted because I felt threatened! 

I did not assess and evaluate the situation and then respond appropriately.  I simply curled up into a ball (figuratively) and went into shut down mode!

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*  I have my own opinions about what is (and what is not) happening in the UK at present.

** for those who don’t know about bubbles.  Here in the UK we are permitted (during the lockdown situations) to have certain visitors, provided that we are sharing our space to provide them with support and assistance (otherwise known as a bubble).

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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

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Tuesday, 24 November 2020

Time For Me (or You)!

                           

Time For Me (or You)! 
    
I don't think that there are many people who would disagree with me when I say that it is crucial to make time for yourself.

If you create time for enjoyment and restoration every day it is a win-win situation because it will make you happier and more effective in doing the things that you have to do both at work and at home.

However, it rarely happens because somewhere, deep inside us, we feel that we don’t deserve it or we believe that we have such a busy life it seems impossible to hit the pause button.

You actually need to "take a moment to yourself to enable you to get a moment to yourself!"

You really don’t need to wait until it feels right to take this time, even though it may feel that you have unfinished tasks and it will feel unpleasant not to do them.   You will only find pleasure if you learn to tolerate the discomfort of leaving them alone for the time being.

For instance:-  don’t worry unnecessarily if your email inbox gets full or if the bedroom still has unmade beds or the living room is a tip.

Just switch off and take time out!

It is all too easy to just put things into your “me time” because you think you should enjoy them and if you do genuinely enjoy them they are perfect

But that said, if you don’t enjoy them you will only become resentful and you will eventually rebel against doing them.

Always make sure that the part of your week when you spend time doing something for yourself consists of doing things that you enjoy just for themselves.

Because when you do find that you get some time that is set to be enjoyable just take a little tip and really make it count. Because when you realise that you are enjoying yourself it is surprising how much benefit taking even just half a minute and paying attention to your pleasure feelings will provide.

It is possible that taking those minutes to yourself will become part of your memory and as such they will help you to feel like you had even more time to yourself.

So, make a commitment to yourself and if you’ve bought tickets for something and made plans to be with a friend then do it!

I guarantee that time dedicated to your and your pleasure will be more beneficial than and time spent  mindlessly surfing social media or slobbing in front of the TV.

Have a fantastic day

DAve x

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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



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About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

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Tuesday, 17 November 2020

Upturn The Status Quo

Upturn The Status Quo


Today I would like to encourage you to be a little bit radical!

As I am sure you all know, inventions only happen when people challenge the conventional ways of doing things.

At one time there was a limited use of aircraft because people believed that flight was impossible and their reasoning was that something that was heavier than air could fly through the skies.  But no matter how much people scoffed at this a small band of dedicated researchers stuck to their belief that one day a machine would be capable of escaping the ground and flying through the air.

As far back as 1799 an Englishman George Cayley drew up a set of plans for a fixed wing aircraft, then in 1804 he followed those plans and build a small glider and then in 1853 he flew a full sized glider near Scarborough.

Now let us consider shipping:- the concept of iron hulled sailing ships was considered impossible because iron is so heavy and yet they were constructed and sailed successfully between 1820 and 1900.

Now let us jump forwards to approximately 60 years ago the world was placed into torment and turmoil by something that was created in America

When the United States of America launched its first satellite into space the date was 31st January 1958.  The Explorer one satellite however was not, however, the first human made object that flew into space.  The honour for that achievement went to the Soviet union‘s Sputnik 1 in October 1957

However, the following 60 years have not all been about studying other worlds through the marvels of science we have also been able to learn so much more about our own planet. 

The discoveries that have been made about Earth have changed the way we see the World for all time!

We have been able to watch the development of wildfires, to look at pollution, weather and even the historic journeys of the multi-tonne statues on Easter Island.

David Portree said "because we saw weird stuff on other worlds it made us think it is our right to have weird stuff here on earth!" 

"We used to think that the craters on the earth's surface were the result of volcanic eruptions but further investigation has shown that these have been formed by the impact of space rocks".

He also goes on to say that "not everyone may be profoundly changed on a daily basis by the things we have learned from going into space" but rather "the potential exists in a lot of people to feel a kinship with the Kosmos because we now know more about it"

So don't simply accept what is! If you feel that there is a better way to do things then keep trying until you perfect an alternative, because who knows you might just create another case of "upturning the Status Quo!"

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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



ooo000ooo

About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Tuesday, 10 November 2020

Towards a less chaotic life......

 


Hi it's Dave and thank you for joining me on this week’s blog.

While I was thinking about the content for the week it dawned on me that something that could prove useful would be a few tips to assist with cutting through the chaos that we all live with. So here are a few tips that I came up with that I have divided into four sections:-

1. Be Brave

When you are thinking about change it is normal to concentrate on how you would like your life to be different. That is perfectly alright because taking the time to reflect on what you want creates the foundation for long lasting changes


You can become immersed in pulling together ideas and inspirations for creating a different style for way of living but to make change happen you have to move on from thinking to doing.

If you don’t seem to get to that stage there may be some subconscious resistance to letting go of the chaos. You might want things to be simpler but there is also a part of you that questions if you have been successful enough to justify getting off the treadmill.

Be brave, commit to making some changes, because small changes can make big differences.  Turn off push notifications on your phone, change multitasking into doing one thing at a time, begin your day with a few minutes meditation and then, once you have created a bit more headspace, the decision-making process regarding bigger changes will seem so much easier

2. Set Intentions

Do you have a naturally curious mind are you always open to ideas and projects? Are you an imaginative type of person?  You do? It is possible that you will find it hard to determine where is best to focus your energy, and this can leave you feeling that you are all over the place, that you lack direction and you may feel overwhelmed.

Slowing down and making things simpler might be a sticking point for you because you thrive on new things and you find it hard to say no to the things that seem as if they could be quite interesting.

These are things that you have to face up to if you want to live simply, life because spreading yourself too thin and often means that you don’t see your ideas come to fruition.

If you get clear on your goals then it will seem easier to focus.

If you are offered an opportunity ask yourself this will it take me closer to or further away from my goal?

However if you don’t have clear goals to begin with start looking at your values, what really matters to you and then ask which of all the ideas I am interested in all those that are in line with my values think about your way of being rather than what you want to our

3. Put Yourself First!

You already know that it makes sense to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping anybody else.

You are great at telling other people to look after themselves and you are likely only paying lip service to caring for yourself

Often you tolerate the stresses and strains that are attached to people pleasing maybe you want a simple life or more time to think about what you really do want but then you find your agreed to take on extra work or help someone out and run the risk of personal burnout

Why not sit down and make a plan for a simpler week do you want to have more time in the evenings to read do you want to have a morning walk, take a leisurely stroll around or just sit and people watch with a cup of tea or coffee.

Being anxious about not having enough time is a big cause of stress So it is important to allow yourself time for being calm and clear during your week. You might have to say no to people more often because wanting to be liked by everyone is just trying to control the uncontrollable and you can’t find clarity with this as your default setting.

4. Stop Making Comparisons

If you are not careful it becomes very easy to find yourself trapped in a loop of comparison and despair. It makes no difference how hard you push there will always be someone who seems to achieve more than you do.

You are seeking clarity but you are questioning whether it is alright to want a simple life. You might find that there is a conflict between what your gut is telling you matters and the message that jump out at you from Social Media. Everybody around you seems to be busier than you are but ask yourself this:- Are they?

It is hard to buck the trend and be the only person who is taking time and space to reflect on what they are doing. That is an old wise saying which comes out as don’t compare your insides to somebody else’s outsides.

Find a positive role model, someone who seems to balance achievement and success with enjoyment and a good quality of life.  Know that it really is possible to reach your full potential without sacrificing happiness and emotional well-being!

Simply ask yourself when are you at your most creative? When are you most focused? When do you feel calm and in control when do you feel stressed and exhausted?

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The 2021 Workbook is now in progress!





However if you wish to order a copy of the outgoing 2020 workbook please navigate to the Shopping Page


Business Developer / Coach Emma Kersey said this about the 2018 Workbook

"Sorry I didn't get round to fully utilizing the e-book but please know that just reading it helped massively........... just needed a push and the book did that so thank you"



ooo000ooo

About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded The Blue Sky Company to enable me to develop my work in more ways.  In addition I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy, Reiki and I am working towards a Diploma in Mindfulness.


If you would like to know more about my therapy work etc, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Under Blue Skies page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.


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Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!


My Slip Was Showing.....

         My              Slip          Was          Showing! Hi and thank you for being here. Before I begin, a little historical fact - in ...