Wednesday, 14 April 2021

Looking at Exhaustion

                                            Looking 

 At 

 Exhaustion




This week I thought that I would take a look at something that affects all of us at some point of our lives and that is the subject of exhaustion. There are four clear steps that I have highlighted and put everyone of us in danger of burnout.


Step 1 is Worry

Because your active mind life comes with a dark side -You tend to be guilty of overthinking And get yourself into a never ending spiral of worst case/what if scenarios.

You might try to justify this by saying you are prepared but in fact you are on settled by uncertainty and worrying gives you a feeling of control.

Your belief is that if you expect the worst and it does not happen that is a bonus. But, over time this drains your well-being, you feel tired, fed up of being stressed but it is hard for you to change.

Protect yourself by having “worry time” (15 minute window is good)

Surprisingly when you schedule the time to sit down and worry things seem smaller and you have broken the “worry hold” over you.


Step 2 is Emotional Labour


If you become the caring heart of your family and friends you may find that role provides you with a sense of purpose but the truth is it can leave you in a state of exhaustion because you continually give without receiving anything back.

Some friends may become “vampires“ and these people never give anything in return, but because of your nature you will find it hard to say “No”.

You will ultimately find yourself feeling low and believing that you have been used.

To protect yourself from burnout audit your friendships. Score each friend from 1 to 10 based on how much energy you have when you are in their company. One equals flat 10 equals vibrant. When that is done spend most of your time with those people who score 5 and above.

Step 3 is Self Sabotage

Are you burned out? If you are you are probably a person who works and plays hard, you believe that you should just get on with it. This is surely a route into self sabotage.

Sometimes you might have an important meeting scheduled and you are still in the bar drinking during the week small hours.

Why do you expect to get by on four or five hours sleep or accept more work when you are already fully stretched?

You are putting both your mental and physical health at risk. You find you suffer from feeling on fit, poor concentration and low energy but you cannot stop yourself.

Be honest – note your activity on a planner. Take a good look and decide if what you are doing is taking you nearer to or further away from your best life.

Step 4 is Conscientiousness

You are someone who is valued at work and are singled out as the go to person to get stuff done. You thrive on personal growth and reaching for your goals. You set the bar high but what really happens is you spend so much time on the small stuff you have no energy left for the bigger things.

You feel that letting people down is an absolute no! You feel that good enough is alright but is never for you.

To protect yourself from burnout step out of your routine every so often.

Too much routine drains you, start a hobby that is fun to do without focusing on achievements.

And finally

Be brutally honest and look at yourself and your life in great detail. Use a daily activity planner, take a long hard look and see how much of your routine takes you one step closer do your best life, or alternatively, one step further away.

Carry out an audit of your friendships. Score each friend from 1 to 10 (1 = flat, 10 = vibrant) based on how much energy you have when you are in their company.

Once you have done this spend the most time with those who score is over five.

ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I am able to send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Wednesday, 7 April 2021

Manifesting Your Heart's Desire!






Hi and welcome to another blog post from Altered Image coaching!







This week we are taking a look at:-

"how to create a beginners mindset for manifesting your heart’s desire!"

Every day take time to sit quietly let go of the chaos of your day and put your attention towards your hearts desire. Allow yourself to feel what it feels like to be living right now in this very moment person who you love the most.

Ask yourself the next question:- 

where in my body do I feel the joy and excitement and the complete knowingness that I am now connected to my soulmate? 

Enjoy the time and luxuriate in those feelings.

Let go of “needing to know“. 

As human beings we always look for certainty, we expect life to be clear and in black-and-white terms in order that we can make our plans and move on

Manifesting means that we have to first let go of the need to know when and how the person of our dreams will appear!  

We must begin to trust that one day our desires will be fulfilled, even if we are not able (at this moment) to see the proof of that.

Stop thinking in terms such as:- 

“I should be doing something more to make this happen!” 

It is a given that the path to successful manifestation requires a clear statement of desire or intention. It also requires trust under belief that what you have asked for is already yours and then taking appropriate action steps but feel right for you

Focus on asking questions not answers and having done that listen to your inner voice.  What is it telling you?

Let your inner knowing guide and direct to you towards taking the actions and steps that are the right ones for you.

Do not succumb to pressure from friends or family who could try to insist that you do your manifestation practice the way they do.

It is your manifesting practice and you can do it exactly how you feel is appropriate!

So to end this post all that remains is to wish you

HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL MANIFESTING!
 

ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I am able to send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Tuesday, 30 March 2021

A New 30 - Day Challenge

 


 A New 30 - Day Challenge


Hey! It's Dave. 

This week I have decided to issue a bit of a challenge to my readers it is actually based on a Personality Exercise I took about 2 years ago.  

Naturally, having done this myself I would really like you all to do it as well and at the end feedback anything you discovered about yourself during the exercise.


Simply answer each question truthfully and jot down your answers.  You can share the insights (publicly or privately) if you so wish.  But even if you don't share, please leave a comment to tell us what you have discovered about yourself at the end of the questions:-

So here goes

1.  What weird things do you do when you are alone?

2.  How have you changed during the past 2 years?

3.  What kind of person attracts you?

4.  What do you prefer to wear to bed?

5.  Name 5 things that irritate you about the opposite sex?


6.  Name 5 things that irritate you about your own sex?


7.  What is your opinion about checking on people?

8.  What are your current worries?

9.  When was your last kiss?

10. What are your thoughts on drugs & alcohol?

11. Name something you want to say to an ex!

12. Describe a date you would love to go on


13. Spill the beans - Something disgusting that you do?

14. The best thing to happen to you this week is............

15. What am you proud of in your personality?

16. What scares you?

17. Something that never fails to make you feel better?

18. When was your last argument?

19. Something that you can't get over?

20. 3 things about you that people don't really expect?


21. What if........?

22. Something you want to say to someone close to you?

23. Something you want to say to a friend?

24. 10 ways to win your heart? 


25. If you follow a religion what faith are you?

26. Something you like about your brother / sister?

27. What is your happy month and why?

28. What has changed for you significantly this month?

29. Where do you see yourself at this time next year?

30. When did you last say "I Love You!"?


Thank you for taking part and I hope that you got something out of it.

ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I am able to send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Tuesday, 23 March 2021

Being Assertive



      

       BEING ASSERTIVE




This week I decided that I would write a short piece about being assertive.  It is my belief that standing up for yourself can be hard - but there is a way to learn how to be stronger in your approach!

It is important to get your point across to the other person.  However, there are many ways that you can do this so here are just a few

a) Focus on what can be done - say something such as “I understand that it must be difficult for you but we can take that into account when we look at what we can do”

b) State what you want using some words such as what I would prefer is this........

c)Take ownership of your ideas and feelings and viewpoints And you can do this by using the phrase “this is how I see the situation....”

d) Do not focus on opinions but use behaviour and facts such as “When I saw you do…”

e) Make clear statements for example “I don’t have a preference for what we do…“

f) Create a habit of asking open questions - the type that invite the other person to give their view

g) Make sure you focus on what can be done by saying “I know it must be difficult, but we can take that into account…“

It also helps to use the following as ideas:-

Avoid falling into the I win / you lose trap - this view tends to indicate that we live in a hostile place and that the way to survive is to be the stronger person, to strike first because "the best form of defence is attack"

Conversely avoid falling in to the you win / I lose trap because this makes the assumption that your needs (when compared to others) are not as important. You appear to be anxious about standing up for what you want so you make other people feel guilty or sorry for you

So the best thing to do is to adopt the I win / you win situation. This way acknowledges that each persons rights are equally as important as everyone else’s!  You are responsible for your own behaviour and the consequences of that behaviour

And that brings us to the end of the short piece on being assertive it can be hard to stand up for yourself but you can learn to be strong.

(Based on a piece entitled "Be Assertive" by Suzanne and Conrad Potts)

ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I am able to send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Tuesday, 16 March 2021

LOVE - Conditional v Unconditional


Love

Conditional v Unconditional

Recently I became an observer to a conversation between two people and they were talking about two aspects of love conditional love and unconditional love. The discussion lead to an exchange that revealed one of the participants in the discussion had had a parent who would often say things like
"if you don't do that I will not love you" can you imagine how that felt to a young child?

Now, we often hear the phrases "conditional love" and "unconditional love" but do we really know what they actually mean?

They are often used in everyday speech and it can prove difficult to determine which is which. Most of us have some kind of event that will teach us about one (or the other) type of love and the result of this is that we can often get confused.

It takes a lot of practice to gain an understanding of the differences between unconditional and conditional love.

So let’s begin by asking the question 

What actually is conditional love?

I think we can safely say that conditional love isn’t a very nice thing! It doesn’t feel very nice, in fact, quite often, it doesn’t feel like love at all! 

If someone exercises conditional love they put terms and restrictions on us and they have their own rules about what merits the giving of love.

To put that another way a person can have great affection for you, can care for you deeply but if it feels to you that you have to earn their love than that love without a shadow of a doubt is conditional.

It is my belief that conditional love often goes out of the window during difficult times. This is sometimes called “Fairweather Love” and that means that your partner, your friend or even a family member, walks away when the times get tough.

Conditional love is not a tried and true love, it often causes deep pain for those who receive it. 

If you find that someone is making you feel unworthy of their love when times are at their darkest this person is providing conditional love and that is completely opposite to the very definition of love.

So what is unconditional love?

It is very difficult to describe but, to put it simply, it is love without limits, without barriers and without any conditions attached to it!

For example, it doesn’t come with “I will love you if…” or “I’ll only love you when you change the way you behave”

On the contrary - there are NO boundaries to unconditional love, there are no debts to unconditional love, there is no charge to unconditional love!

Unconditional love is not an exchange it is freely offered and given! 

You could also say that unconditional love heals deeply,  and the reason for this is that it generates feelings that we have been seen and have been accepted for who we are, despite how difficult the times may be.

In conclusion I believe that possibly the most important statement on this subject is:-

 "you cannot practice unconditional love until you have learnt to Love yourself unconditionally".

ooo000ooo


About Dave   I am a personal development coach; a therapist; speaker; and  radio presenter.  A number of years ago I founded my coaching practice and although it has gone through various incarnations the core of Altered Image Coaching has always remained the same to help and encourage people to live their best lives.  

Certifications

I hold qualifications in the following disciplines:-

Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)

Music Therapy (Diploma)

Crystal Therapy (Practioner)

Reiki (Practitioner)

Dementia Awareness

plus I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an 

Introduction To Mindfulness

To enquire / book a session, then please email me.

If you would like to join our Facebook group just follow the link below to the Altered Image Coaching page. The page is home to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

By way of a thank you for their continued support Tribe Members regularly receive exclusive content that I do not post anywhere else.  The page also provides advanced information about forthcoming projects and events.

So please spread the word about the blog, the tribe etc. to your friends and family and I hope to see you as a member of our "Tribe" soon.





LINKS

Website:

Wytchwynd Photography:

Pinterest:

To subscribe to the blog please go over to the right hand side of this page and click the button that says “Follow”.  Once you do that you will be added to our list of subscribers.

Feel free to share this and other posts with your friends and associates

Inspirational Phrases

In addition to the above I am able to send out a daily email containing an Inspirational Phrase. 

To ensure that we comply with the relevant regulations this is a subscription only service and to  be included please send an email using “add me” as the subject to:- 


Once you have subscribed the phrases will be delivered to your mail box every day at no cost to you whatsoever.

Have a fantastic day, live a life of Passion and Power.

And above all

Don't Predict The Future - CREATE IT!

Looking at Exhaustion

                                             Looking   At   Exhaustion This week I thought that I would take a look at something that affect...