Friday, 28 February 2020

Today's Video Thought (28/02/20) - "Believe In......"

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Wednesday, 26 February 2020

Today's Video Thought (26/02/20) -

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If you would like to know more about the blog or my therapy work etc, then please email me.

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Relationships.............


We begin to feel jealous when we feel that special connection that we have with another person is threatened.   
We might be scared that the situation might cause the connection to be broken. Iother words we begin thinking that the other person has found someone to replace us. It is a fact that romantic jealousy can present real problems in a relationship, however research has indicated that there are several elements (or traits) that can ultimately lead to much greater jealousy and these are listed as 

 Low self-esteem;
A general tendency to be moody, anxious, and having emotional instability
Feelings of insecurity and possessiveness; 

     Having a high level of dependence on your partner;  
     Feelings of inadequacy in your relationship - fearing you are not good enough for your partner; 
     A chronic fear that your partner will leave you or will not love you enough. 

    At this point I feel it is worth determining what significance a relationship has upon us and it is my belief that without doubt relationships are one of the most important parts of life.

     They can bring you intense pleasure, both physically and mentally but can also provide you with the most indescribable pain if not handled correctly.  
     If you handle your relationships well then they reward you by being totally fantastic.
    There are two basic rules of life that apply directly to any relationship

Everything in life must GROW (if it does not grow then it dies
Everyone must CONTRIBUTE in meaningful way (if you don't contribute to a relationship 
it will die)



When people have a relationship that is working properly it provides the most 
fantastic, incredible, joy, passion, and fulfillment that can ever be known by a man or woman.



That said there are some very basic questions about relationships that are probably 
best asked at the juncture

How do you create an extraordinary relationship
How do you deal with challenges in a relationship
How do you nurture and expand a relationship

...... and simply the answer to all 3 is first you must identify where you are right now, 
then determine where you want to be and ask yourself where is the gap? 


You are either in a relationship or not – if not then two things become apparent

a)  you say you want a relationship but it is not yet a must for you to get into one

b)  you don't want a relationship because you associate it with pain.  However this 

will eventually cause you greater pain that being in a relationship because you are 
failing to satisfy the need to be loved which is one of the basic needs of humanity.  

It is not something we want, it is something we MUST have.

People have to realise that being in a relationship will mean that there are times when 
you are going to get hurt but if you have an outstanding relationship you will have 
learned that there is a value in getting hurt, it can be a way of teaching you something 
and the secret is to learn from it so that in future you can avoid the situation leading to 
the hurt.

If you are in a relationship then there are 3 possible places that you can be
a) you want more from it – this is a natural situation, you want to grow and develop 
b) you want an end to it, to be out of it because you have associated pain to being in
the relationship OR you associate pain with leaving the relationship
c) you may be in a place where the relationship is static

In relationships we respond to what we think is happening
“she said so and so, so that means........”  OR  “he did this and so it must mean...........”

because we bring our past experiences into play and associate the now event with 
our reference point from the past.

We often refuse to allow the other people to begin with a “clean slate”

It is very important to remember that “this is not that”

When you want to leave a relationship are you making the person into someone else? 
Are you responding to them as if they were a family member or your boss?

Are you adding a meaning to something that is not correct, are you magnifying the situation?

It is worth noting that almost all stress comes from making something bigger than it actually is

If you want to change your life then try asking yourself a different question when you 
are about to become upset.  Ask yourself “what else could this mean?”

When you are upset it is rarely that you are upset because of what someone said or did, 
you are upset because of the meaning you have associated with their words or actions.

So make yourself come up with as many positive alternative meanings as your negative ones

If you start piling negative meanings onto different actions you will ultimately drive the 
other person into a place where they no longer want to be with you – they will no longer 
want to “relate” to you. 

When you build these negatives you will push them away and yet you are supposed to 
be their friend, their boss, their partner, their mentor, their father etc.

Don't ever make the assumption that their actions have been deliberate and specifically 
to cause you harm, because it is rarely about you.  They are probably trying to sort their 
own problems out and they are not thinking about you, maybe you just “got in the way”

So look for empowering alternatives as to why they are behaving as they are.

This will bring you back into balance and so even if you are right you will have the ability 
to be level headed and realise that they are vulnerable and you will no longer attack.

Relationships are about unity – would you rather be right or be in love?

Do you care about the other person.  You have to learn to become a Master of  Meanings
even if they are wrong you should learn to be elegant about it after all, you are a team.

If you injure the relationship you injure yourself 

People do not respond positively to negative reinforcement but they consistently respond 
to pleasureable reinforcement.

If you are in a static relationship (point c that I mentioned earlier) then this is possibly 
the worst place to be.  You don't want to leave but you don't want to develop further in 
the situation.  If we go back to something I said at the beginning of this discussion, to exist 
in this life you have to grow and it is the same with a relationship if it does not grow it 
will wither away.

Think about you ideal relationship – what would it be like, what would you say, what 
would you laugh about, what would you share how would you surprise one another.

And finally I would like to add something about Jealousy, the monster in the corner.

We begin to feel jealous when we feel that special connection that we have with 
another person in threatened.  We feel scared that the situation might cause the 
connection to be broken.  In other words we begin thinking that the other person has 
found someone else to replace us. 

It is a fact that romantic jealousy can present real problems in a relationship, 
however research has indicated that there are several elements (or traits) that can 
ultimately lead to much greater jealousy and these are listed as 

1. Low self-esteem

2. A general tendency to be moody, anxious, and having emotional instability

3. Feelings of insecurity and possessivenes

4. Having a high level of dependence on your partner

5. Feelings of inadequacy in your relationship - fearing you are not good enough for your
partner.

6. A chronic fear that your partner will leave you or will not love you enough.

As Tony Robbins once commented

"Life IS relationships and the quality of your life is directly related to the relationships you
create".




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About Dave   I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company.  I am also a therapist and my therapy work includes music therapy; crystal therapy and Reiki.  Currently I am studying towards a Diploma in Mindfulness

If you would like to know more about the blog or my therapy work etc, then please email me.

Follow the link to join our Facebook page Under Blue Skies this page is host to a group of like - minded people (affectionately knows as "the tribe").

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Tuesday, 25 February 2020

Today's Video Thought (25/02/20) - Be Thankful......

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Today's Thought (29/05/20) - "Having children......"

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