Wednesday, 25 January 2017

Responsibility, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Action

Welcome to this new post on the Real Dave Baxter Blog.  Before we get into the Nitty Gritty of the post I would like to say that because of my affinity with the world of Performing Arts I wholeheartely support the campaign to Save The North Devon Theatres that were placed in administration on Monday 23rd January 2017

The Landmark Theatre, Ilfracombe
Photograph: wytchwynd photography

Responsibility, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Action…..4 major steps to a better life.
Most of us know what we want in life and if the majority of us were asked the question our answers would probably contain at least one of the following three statements
a)     more money
b)     better health
c)     improved love life
In fact we all want to be happy, living a long life and being happy in that lifetime.  However it a sad fact that most people do not know how to be happy, we look for it in the wrong places.  It is actually true that money, health and love can, and often do, add to our unhappiness, but the do not create happiness.
In every person’s life there are negative times and positive times and which one of these we focus on has a huge bearing on how happy we feel in our lives.  Someone with a negative out look on life will not only make their own life “difficult” they will also affect the people they are around, thus making their lives less than they should be.  However we can become the agents of change and help ourselves and others turn our lives around.
Accept Responsibility
There are things that happen that are out of our control. However, most of us could do a lot more to improve our own situation.
When we accept that our life is the way it is because of the choices we have made and we “see it for what it is” we set ourselves free to make better choices in the future. This is not going to be easy and at times it will feel extremely uncomfortable. But if you push yourself through the pain point and accept this as a fact, it is often very liberating. Accepting responsibility can see us building better relationships and achieving better results in our lives.


We must learn the quality of forgiveness. If we continue to be angry with someone we do ourselves no favours – it does us no good whatsoever. Remaining angry with someone can have a detrimental effect on our lives and can in fact cause us hurt.
It is a know fact that anger causes stress that in turn can lead to health problems. Hating other people does not hurt them in any way.  The person who is the object of this hate is more than likely not even thinking about you. They are going about their daily life. To use an analogy here hating is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
You need to let go of the situation, forgive and move on, Remember, you are the only person who is truly in control of your emotions and feelings.
Gratitude is an important part of the improvement process it is in fact a huge part of solution.
So many of us focus on things we wish we had and if we get stuck in the mindset of always wanting more, we find that we are never satisfied.
Irrespective of what someone achieves eventually they will find other things that they want!
There is nothing wrong with dreaming of things we would like but it can create  problems if we focus on what we want and forget about what we already have. Once we learn to be grateful for the things that we do have in our lives, we find ourselves becoming much more content. We start to experience Inner Peace.

Taking Action

You need to be proactive with your life. You need to know what you want and what steps you need to take to get it and then you need to take those steps. Don’t wait for Lady Luck or fate to bring you the things that you want. The only person who can achieve your goals is you.   You will never achieve them if you wait for other people to do them for you.   Be on the lookout for opportunities and be ready to take action. Take steps every day towards achieving your goals.
Small steps are better than no steps at all!
1)     Make a list of the three most important things you value.
2)     What have you done to achieve or develop those things in your life to date?
3)     Could you have done more?
Being proactive about your life will result in constant improvements.

If this has made you think about how you act, or if it has prompted any questions, then please feel free to add them as a comment in the box below or to email me:-

About Dave I am a coach; speaker; radio presenter and founder of The Blue Sky Company.  I am also a therapist and co-own a virtual light centre called The Crystal Spring.  My therapy work includes music therapy; reiki; crystal therapy


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