Hi it's Dave and thank you for joining me on the Altered Image Coaching blog.
This week's post has been somewhat delayed for various reasons and although I had written the post I had intended to use, it simply did not feel right. Despite many changes I could not get it to flow properly so in the end it was simply "hit delete!" and come back tomorrow after a good night's sleep.
Quite simply I made a decision!
Making that decision prompted me to use that as the subject for the post you are reading now!
In a nutshell there are several points that you need to consider before making any decision.
If your decision is likely to affect a marriage or a partnership then a number of points are called into play, namely:-
Make sure that you are thinking and acting in a way that is not just based entirely around your own desires.
Put simply - Don't just think of yourself!
- Don't just think of your partner!
- Only think about the US not just the me or the you!
Be inclusive!
Never act in haste
Never act because you are angry or upset - judgements are always affected by such emotions and it is quite possible that decisions made here will be flawed!
Never make a decision out of stupidity - take time to consider whether or not the decision is rational and beneficial. Gather information about the subject so that the decision you make is appropriate.
Never make a decision out of fear - it is highly likely that a decision taken at a time when you are fearful will not benefit yourself and your partner. Take the time to consider appropriate actions not knee jerk reactions.
All that being said there are some points that I will outline that have the ability to help with decision making process:-
a) there is no such thing as a "wrong" decision - there is only a decision! The actions you take after making the decision make it "right" or "wrong"
In my own case 20 plus years ago my wife and I made the decision to move to North Devon. The decision was made one sunny afternoon and we had no idea at the time whether it would prove to be a "good" move or a "bad" move.
Despite the family calling us mad, crazy, uncaring, selfish - here we are all these years later, very happy with the move, and it so happens that all of these people eventually moved to live in North Devon!
Therefore the decision was a "right" decision for us both. That said my brother moved here and for him it was a "wrong" decision in a lot of respects and now he has moved on to somewhere else.
b) when you look back you can never say "if" because you don't know what would have happened if you had made a different choice.
c) remember you can never change what you did in the past, you can only make a new decision and so having made that, move forwards with the new decision and in Freedom!
I contend that the "past" is a hinderance and it is my recommendation that you "don't live there" You learn from the "present" because this is where life happens. If you adopt this way of thinking and stop worrying about the things you did in the past you free yourself to create new adventures in your life "IN THE NOW!"
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Life Coaching (Honours Diploma)
Music Therapy (Diploma)
Crystal Therapy (Practioner)
Reiki (Practitioner)
Dementia Awareness
In addition to the above I am compiling a series of short videos that will provide an
Introduction To Mindfulness
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